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writes:Right, this is the classic question which I know gets asked multiple times by everyone regardless of how much experience they have.Does my friend like me in any way whatsoever??I've known him for a year and a half.I liked him from March - June 2009 then october 2009 till now.He is perfect for me, I'm not just saying that because I love him, but when I was about 14 I made a list of things which I would like in a guy and he has every single one of them.Our friendship is quite close even though I do have a tendancy of going quiet around him. The reason he initially hated two people we know is because of the being horrible to me (he now has reasons of his own as well)We can be quite physical, he'll tickle me a lot or we kind of play fight and try to take the other down. My friend said that he probably likes me cause of hearing so much about him, but she doesn't actually know him. I know he messes with other girls like that too, but thinking about it I don't know if it's to the same extent as us or not.Last night we were going to a party but we spent about an hour in his house just talking and drinking first. We had a quite a personal chat about all of our sexual experiences and all the embarrassment and misadventures that went with it and masturbation habits. The whole time I was thinking 'OH MY GOD, I think tonight is THE night'Then his mother came home, we left and on our way over to the party he said to me, 'that conversation was leading up to a drunken night of something'I really didn't know what to say to that.A friend of mine said that that was the first time that she properly met him and that she could even feel the tension between me and him. I don't know how true that is because I have my doubts of how much she can analyse our relationship.I was quite annoyed because we've been in other situations where we go to parties and spend the whole night talking by ourselves.Everytime I start to think that he does like me he goes with some other girl and I never know if he really likes her or if it's casual nothingness.I'm confused about him and feel a bit helpless.Any advice? What do you think, does he like me? Is there anything he might do that I'd be able to tell from?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell to be quite honest, we weren't blabbering for the whole evening, there were a couple of silences and we talked about the clock for a bit. It was a nice kind of an awkwardness.
I guess it's just very difficult to explain every detail of a relationship as confusing as this over the internet. I really don't know, I hope there is some form of attraction there.
And to janniepeg, I do get that if I did have sex with him and was then rejected it'd be awful, but it could be a way of moving things forward and I pose this question to all: bearing in mind all what's been said and that he did actually ask me to get with him before, even if he didn't like me now, is there some kind of an attraction which could eventually grow?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 I don't think he is ready to commit into a relationship to any single girl.
If he is interested in you he would not go off with other girls and would stick to you like a leech,call or text, e-mail or Facebook .
If he likes you he would probably gets tongue tight and not babble the whole night . Those who can babble the whole night are probably players.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 If he messes with other girls he negates all good qualities you found in him. Guys are pretty straight forward. He doesn't sound like a shy guy to me. You both got sexually excited. "Tonight is the night" are you referring to sex only? You've known each other for a year and a half and he hasn't asked you out yet. What you were doing is to appeal to his sexual side and hope he likes your personality. If he's conscious of what you are doing then he may feel you are manipulating him into a relationship. Tap into his secret, softer side and start talking about things involving his feelings, his inner desires and ambitions about life. Don't just focus on the lower chakras. Guys are pretty straight forward. They either say they want to get to know you better or they are not looking for a relationship. I would suggest you not going into sex to find out.
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reader, sweetspicy  +, writes (9 April 2010):
 To me it sounds like you are 100% sure how you feel about him. What I would do if I were you is tell him exactly how you feel to get it out of the way, this way if he is interested, you'll be the first to know. If he isnt intrested well they say it's better to have loved than not at all and chances are you'll still be good friends. Be brave!
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