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writes:hey everyone, where to start... Been with my bf for nearlly a year and only 3 weeks ago he was telling me how he loved me, i made him happy and that he saw us going somewhere...that week he continued telling me he loved me as usual and then that saturday he ended it...didnt really give me a straight answer as to why and we didnt speak for a week, he then came over thursday evening and he said he felt he had made the right choice all week but after talking to me that thursday morning he thought i had made some good points and alot of sense (i said that we had been through alot more than most couples in a year and that it was alot to throw away and if he wanted to get back on track we could..in time) he said he needed time to think to make sure he was making the right choice, i tokd him if he was going to go away and seriusly sit back and look at everything we had been through together, the pros, cons... Then i could allow that time but if he was going to go away and just keep telling himself his feelings had changed i couldnt becuase its to hard for me.... So hes gone away this weekend and now im just waiting to hear from him...but its driving me up the wall becuase i know him and i know its not going to change his mind.... Do i contact him and just say i need him to sort it out and tell me once and for all its over or do i give him this time and just wait for him to contact me?... I have resorted myself to the fact its already over so am trying to move on but without hearing the words 'its def over' its hard to not get my hopes up!??? Help.... Please! I just dont know whats going throug his head!
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reader, cherelle +, writes (5 April 2010):
cherelle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou all for your advice, its really appreciated!.... hes coming back from his thinking time today so i sent him a rext saying that id given him time but i just wanted this done with now, so could he contact me to let me know when hes free to say what hes got to say.........
Im so sick of waiting around... End of now guys!.. He wont change his mind so i need to stop kidding myself! i went out last night and i missed him like crazy but its a one way thing so ya know?... What can i do?
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reader, Babeebriony +, writes (4 April 2010):
Well hun if you want to move on then i would contact him and just say i need to know please but if you still love him really deeply then give him his time and if he dosnt contact you then you should just take it as he is moving on so hun bealive in yourself x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 If he's not telling you the reason, it's probably something that might hurt you so it's better for him not to say it. He doesn't want his perception of you to affect your future dating. Your relationship doesn't have all it takes to keep it together. You don't have to wait for him to give you directions. How about you tell him it's over and then move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 No, don't contact him. If you do ,you'll probably won't get any closure. He'll just tell you again that he is not sure yet, that he need to think it over, need some space, some distance,blah blah blah.
Deep down you feel it's over,right ? Then ,act like if it's over. Don't stay there hanging on for "closure ". Some times you just have to get closure unilaterally.The sooner you'll realize that, the sooner you can start moving on
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