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writes:There's a guy I like and we flirt loads but can't start a relationship yet because of awkward situations for both of us. We both want to start something when the situations change but for now we have to keep it just on a friendly basis.I'm pretty highly charged with feelings for this guy and although I'm aware that its mainly lust (especially because I have to wait all this time), I do want it to be a decent relationship and not just something shallow when we do get round to it. So my question is, because it is mainly lusting after him, it feels like it will feel right to move things forward quickly when we do get the chance for more to happen, but I don't want to push it.The real question is, how fast is too fast? And is it right to withold your lustful feelings, or should you follow your passions?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Well I don't know much about relationships on the Emerald Isle, but in America, affairs can move forward rather quickly, even right-away. In my opinion, though, it's entirely personal. We can't say what's right for anyone else. In my fairly long life, and since the 1960s, three or four dates usually lead to intimacy, or the whole thing crashes. Friendship is a good start, but lust can also be fun!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 There's nothing wrong with following your passions. Sometimes you will get more clearheaded once the you get the physical part taken care of. Just be ready to accept that your feelings might change for better or worse. If it proceeds to a relationship, great! If it doesn't, thank him for a wonderful experience and move on. It's too fast when you two haven't agreed on relationship terms. It's not when you feel relaxed, open minded and can go with the flow. But as I said sometimes sex is a good ice breaker and a good way to know each other.
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