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writes:Should I meet up with a guy I met on the internet when I travel to his country later this year?I met this guy on a facebook application about 2 years ago and we've chatted very regulary on msn ever since. We have lots of common interests and I am friends with his brother and sister too. It's never been a romantic relationship, but there are things he says sometimes that make me wonder if he is interested in me as more than friends. I'm not quite sure how I feel about him but I do know I regard him as a good friend. I've never met up with anyone off the net before, and even though I would love to meet him and his family in real life, I'm a bit worried that it could go wrong especially as I will be in a new country where I don't speak the language.What do you all think?
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Oh Sweetie in that case good luck! Let us know what happens! Love the follow up stories
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAuntie E - I was never going specifically to meet him but because I'm going for a volunteer trip it seemed like a good opportunity to meet. I hope it work out, I will going in just over 2 months. I may even travel with him and his siblings to other cities :)
wish me luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys :)
thanks heaps for the advice
janniepeg - he lives in south america, but I'm not flying there specifically to see him. I'm doing a volunteer trip there and he has offered to show me around if I'm in his city.
monksdabomb - yes I have seen him on webcam so he hasn't lied about his age.
I think my heart has already decided that I will meet him just my head keeps telling me otherwise.
The other thing I'm trying to work out is if he likes me. Sometimes he acts like he is very uninterested and he tells me about the girls he is dating or who like him. But he does things like give me his fb password, introduced me to his sister and most recently he said he would break up with his gf if she objected to me visiting his house (he said she gets very jealous). I'm not sure what to make of all this.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 April 2010):
How about if he comes to you? Is that possible?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I would not worry about being in a new country where you do not speak the language. If you feel comfortable with how well you know him and his family, then visiting shouldn't be a problem.
I would listen to CaringGuy's advice, though.... be very careful and safe if you do decide to go.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 April 2010):
There's no reason not to, so long as you're very safe about it. Make sure it's in a public place. You have known each other for two years and really spent time talking, so chances are he's a good guy. But be safe.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 I wonder what that country could be if English is not its official language. His country must be faraway. Closest would be Indonesia, further away Europe or South America? If he's interested he should be the one flying over, at least he knows English. And also who's paying for the air fare? If you are interested in his culture go meet him and he would be your tour guide, but don't expect anything romantic or committment from him. It's good to have a friend though so every holiday you can send him a card. There are never too many friends.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Do you know a lot about this guy? Have you seen pictures of him or on webcam, so that you know he is how old he says he is? Go with your gut and if you want to meet him but don't feel completely comfortable, meet in a public place with lots of people around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): hi im christina.
i think if you feel comfortable enough to meet him and his family then go for it but i would bring a friend along with you jut to be safe you kno?
as long as their okay with that
i hope you have fun!!
goog luck
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