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writes:My ex and I were together for 3 years. We broke up in dec. And she started dating her best guy friend almost immediately. I tried to get her back, and slept with her twice in febuary, they were still dating, but ultimately she didn't want to get back together then, she still seemed hurt. I cut contact Completely till my b day in march. She wanted to gnat out for my b day so we did a couple weeks later. I got all the signs that she was interested in me, flirting, old times, it seemed like we never broke up. She told me she wished I had been like I am now last semester we wouldn't have broken up.(broke up bc I am in law school and she felt left behind). We had been talking and stuff but now Her bf came in town this weekend and now I feel confused. things seemed promising, ect. Can anyone tell me what's going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Your ex sounds like shes definietly still into you and she wanted you all along instead of this other dude. Dont think shes high maintenance or a cheater since that all depends on circumstances. This should be a time to test out the waters and take it slow wiht her to figure out whats goin on. For all you know this guy may have decided to come in town himself and she was thinking about you the entire time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): Only you can truly assess the situation. She might have used your birthday as a chance to finally talk to you and get together. Since you have a long history it seems this new bf could be a temporary fix for her. He may have come in town because it was planned or other reasons, and they may not be that serious especially if you and your ex got together in feb.
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reader, empop +, writes (11 April 2010):
I have learned that people will tell you what you want to hear when they're with you and want something from you (sex, attention) but will totally forget about it after they get what they want.
She sounds extremely high maintenance, like she needs someone to pay attention to her all the time. When her new boyfriend isn't around, she'll use you to get the attention she wants, but when he is, she'll start hanging out with you less. When you needed to work on your own life (in school) she couldn't stand the lack of attention and instantly found someone new.
Anyway, do you really want to get back together with a girl who cheats so much? An open relationship is one thing, but if she's willing to cheat on her new boyfriend, she'll be willing to cheat on you too when times get rough. Find someone who is more independent who helps you accomplish your goals, rather than drains you by needing constant validation.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (11 April 2010):
 There are occasions when we are left by ourselves and feel lonely. One is holidays, birthdays obviously. Second is when our partners are out of town. If Valentine's Day is not in February and your birthday is in let's say November, would you have hooked up with her again? I don't think so. When people break up it's normal to still have feelings but you have to keep reminding yourself the reasons you broke up at the first place. This weekend is going to suck for you. She will suddenly forget you exist and have a great time and tell her new boyfriend she wished they met earlier. Do something fun. Pamper yourself. Eat good food.
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