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writes:Can't get over someone i know is no good for me. He's a lying cheating scumbag but we are really good friends and i have fallen completely for him. i can't break the friendship off, that's not fair to him but i can't control my feelings anymore. i know he has some kind of romantic feeling for me, but i've told him over and over it's not going to happen but the thing is i secretly want it to. i'm totally torn in two. i know he will just hurt me, but i can't seem to just settle for being his friend.how can i stop myself going insane? Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (2 April 2010):
 You would rather have a bad romance than be just friends?
You won half of the battle by telling him it's not going to happen. The other half of the battle is letting your wild energies just dissipate by itself. I had fallen in love with a friend who's not available to me (not a scumbag though). I stopped eating, couldn't sleep, and was daydreaming all day. That guy introduced me to another guy. We did stuff but nothing much happened between us afterwards. Once my focus shifted, I was no longer thinking about my friend. My appetite came back and I was sleeping well, and didn't feel the urge to call him again. I felt stupid for letting my body and my emotions take over me. I think you should date another guy. You don't have to expect a relationship, and neither does he. The purpose is to divert your attention somewhere else. It's not necessary in life to learn it the hard way. Why were you friends with a lying cheating scumbag at the first place?
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 ahhh you want the bad boy huh
Hes exciting isnt he, and you just know you will have loads of fun with him.
There are two questions you should ask yourself:
1. Why do you want to ruin your life by being used up and spat out?
2. Cant you have more fun without someone elses help?
I have no idea why girls keep doing this to themselves, only the desperate pathetic guys date the bad girl.
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