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writes:Hi I have this problem with my man, i am 52, he is 63 and he wants to cum in my mouth, up till now i have never wanted to do this ever in my life, but my man is diff and now i do, - to begin with, I didn't want to with him either, but now i do he knows this but is still affaid to cum in my mouth ! this week end he told me in a txt the following.....And i'm getting worried cos i still cant cum in your mouth...... you've buggered up my libido !please help me as i'm worried i'm going to loose him over this problem
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 In my opinion, most of the identified and regular advisors provided excellent advice here, notably from "DiovanLestat" and "troubledtoomuch" - and I can add but one suggestion. It worked for myself and a recent girlfriend in her 60s who had never performed fellatio at all - so she claimed.
She enjoyed giving head but switched to hand jobs for the finish (not my favorite thing). I was prone and she was in control. After several such sessions over a period of weeks, she worked me up to a finish but only took the first squirt orally. Gradually, she chose to take more each time. My suggestion is kind of a reverse technique in this case. He apparently is the reluctant one. So, if you could bring him to a finish with a combination of fellatio with hand job, you too would be in position to eventually take some orally if you wish. He may not even realize exactly what you are doing down there. You may consider this deceptive, but perhaps your man will accept this as a way to reconcile the idea because you are in control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Another hint. Tell him not to have sex or masturbate for 3 or 4 days and then try it. He will be able to orgasm more easily then. However, it will also mean that he will have produced and stored up more semen. Don't worry, it won't be gallons. Maybe 1 teaspoon instead of half a teaspoon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Didn't see you down there Smiles... Yes girl, you got it right... Bloody better than any face cream and in a loving relationship, it can become very addictive hobby for a woman, even if the taste is always slightly unpleasant. Don't let a guy eat nuts, because he makes too much sperm. Feed him things that you like to eat, and hopefully it will make the taste better... lol
PS: He finds the idea a turn off, because you don't like it and he's afraid to offend or disgust you. Approach this as an experiment. Something you've never tried but you've heard all about.. Please make sex FUN... laugh and say "I feel as nervous as a virgin"... "will I get too much testerone and turn into a man".. make it fun and he will relax, and if you don't like it, then spit it out discretely and have a laugh.. tell him "sorry, but I don't like snails either, maybe we should leave that sex thing out." Have fun babes, and he will too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Nope honey your not gonna loose him. It's not a big thing if you don't want to do it.
It is an acquired taste, just like oysters or snails and I don't like them. Don't make a big thing out of it. Just give him kisses and licks on his penis. When the time comes, open your mouth and he will discharge. You don't have to swallow. Keep a tissue near by and if you don't like the taste then spit it out, and give him a kiss. Tell him, you tried but didn't like it. Many women don't like sperm, many women do. Sperm however is very nutritious, especially if your guy eats very good. Very good as a facial, it help to improve the complexion, so you could try that instead.
If you don't like it don't do it. As him to spill his seed on another part of your body. Just imagine it's cream with a slightly sour salty bitter flavour. It's best to swallow than to taste, because the flavour can be very strong. But don't get tied up about it, it's really not that important. But some men like the intimacy of a women doing this for them, it makes them feel accepted and loved and cared for. Do it, or don't do it, but make it fun, have a laugh, it's not something to get worried about, because you can't do it wrong.
PS: Indeedy Troubletoomuch, this is an advice site to help relationship and discuss sexual issues, and some people's advice is always "disgusting, leave your partner and live alone".. I think they've come to the wrong place, cause that doesn't help anyone to find happiness. I bet you most of them are either unhappy or single, cause they sure don't know much about loving and giving pleasure....
PPS: The anonymous lady who dose it and hates it, please stop, your partner would be unhappy if he knew how you felt. Please find something fun and sexual to do instead. He will be more happy with that. Men do like knowing the give their partners pleasure. Get him to ejaculate on his belly and then paint it all over him, that is fun as well, and won't make you feel so disgusted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Please note people that she wants him to cum in her mouth. He is not trying to force her to do it. They both want to do it. The problem is that he can't get it off when she tries to do it to him and this bothers him. Being that he is 63 years old and a man loses sensitivity with age, that is not a big surprise that it will take a lot of work to make it happen. He may need to help with masturbation while she does something else, like kissing him, until he is getting close.
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reader, 1trainer1 +, writes (13 October 2008):
this is something very personal and something that i will always find that some women enjoy and others do not, it is very personal but i would suggest have a glass of wine or some other drink you fancy next to you when you do it and after you have swallowed if it doesnt do the trick then at least you can say to him you tried and if he is a decent bloke then i am sure he will understand and thank you for giving it a go
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Dear Poster
You have received great advice from Uncle Phil and also from Troubled to much; Vow the uncles said it all BUT just I want to add to that from a womans perspective;I want to share some secrets from my own experiences; doing fellatio on a man is something very intimate; yes, I enjoy doing it with the right partner; I will not easily do it with just anybody,but when in a loving, caring relationship, vow, I enjoy it and it is a great turn on; as for him ejaculating in your mouth; if you feel uncomfortable with that(specially in the beginning) have some tissues handy, spit it in there very quickly and problem solved. BUT I can assure you if you swallow it very quickly, you will not get any reason to feel sick or nauseas; the taste can very and the textures sometimes too, but vow, you might discover like myself that you enjoy it and can have lots of fun with it and have a lot of laughter and jokes about it; I use to tell my late partner that I need some protein, an vow, he new what I meant. As the ejaculation is not dirty, it is not unhealthy; it is actually loaded with "protein". SO try to think of it as healthy. It is also very good for your skin; I have rubbed it on my skin(face) and trust me it works wonders as a mask; when it dries, it pulls the skin tight and when you wash it off, your skin feels baby soft and refreshed.
I hope this is of assistance to you; relax and start enjoying.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): I'm confused. Is it you or him that doesn't want to do it? You said, "....up till now i have never wanted to do this ever in my life, but my man is diff and now i do, - to begin with, I didn't want to with him either, but now i do he knows this but is still affaid to cum in my mouth !"
That sounds like you want him to, but now he doesn't want to do it. My wife had a lot of peartners before me, but had never allowed anyone to cum in her mouth. She was my 2nd and my first wife never did it to me. One night we were watching porn and the guy did it to the woman. My wife (girlfriend at time) told me that was something that she had always refused to do. I thought it would be exciting and hinted a little over a couple of weeks. Well, she had thought about it and decided that she wanted to try it with me, so she asked me if I wanted her to do it. We were about 34 years old at the time. I told her yes, so she started to give me oral, which she had always liked with other guys. I ejaculated in her mouth and she thought about swallowing. She later told me that the thought that ran through her mind after she had a mouthfull was, "Now, swallow." Well, she did, looked up at me and smiled. She's loved doing it ever since. We both like intercourse much better, but it is the idea of doing it that makes it such a turn-on. We are both 63 now. She says that it tastes terrible, but it really isn't that bad, as she is turned on at the time.
I also don't understand his text. If you have decided that you want to, why can't he do it? Also, why would you loose him over this? Please clarify. Do I understand this correctly?
P.S. Don't you just love these people who can only recommend that the poster leave the partner over anything that is any problem. They must have really great relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): That's something I have 'trouble' with too. Probably some sort of sub-conscious voice telling me that it's disgusting.
As far as I'm concerned this is an overrated pastime that I can well do without.
However - if you must - use plenty of saliva and use your fingers as well as your mouth.
If you PM me I can send you a link to an educational video - if I can still find it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Sounds like your guy is kind of selfish, seriously. To swallow or not to swallow is REALLY personal, and not all of us girls want to do it. I'd rather not, and if that's how you feel, your man should accept it. Geez, tell him to stop being such a baby! As long as you let him cum, stop just before he cums, he'll still feel good!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): It tastes gross and the first time i heaved my guts i had to tell him that i went to the bathroom to chuck and he got offended i felt baad but i still do it cauz my man loves it
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