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writes:A few months ago i came into contact with my first cousin again at his moms house for a family party.. we drank carried on had a blast! but i have to admit i enjoyed myself too much.. I didnt know at the time i was falling in love with my cousin.. and it didnt seem bad i didnt think about it.. because we didnt see eachother often it wasnt weird when this past weekend we seen eachother again for anothe rfamily gathering go figure now we have them soo often.. and we seen eachother again we partied drank and carried on.. i felt so close to him..i was so touchy feely.. we kissed.. and it felt so right.. i dont know how to explain this but its overwhelming i have never been so connected to someone in my life.. hes younger about 18 and im 20 and female.. so now im in this bind.. because i am like head over heels for this guy.. and he says he is the same for me.. like i know its not morally correct, but it feels so right.. I dont know what to do! i just need some feedback.. am I like completely screwed up for fallin in love with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2008): Its weird, huh? When I was 16 I was madly in love with my first cousin, but I knew it wasn't what was considered "normal". I think in some states it is against the law to marry a first cousin? I'm not 100% sure about this though. Kings and queens used to intermarry, I believe there were even a few cases where brother and sisters married. Some people will think its weird, but it does happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Damn....like just what you said?! aim on it...I think im falling too with my Couzin..But in my case we havent talk about it we justenjoy the times we were together..i know wat you feel
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): There is nothing wrong with it. Honestly. Men and women in the past married their cousins all the time. What makes others frown on it is the fact that because you come from the same gene pool, if you ever had children, any recessive genes that carred a genetic disorder would be more easily expressed and you'd risk giving any hypothetical children a genetic disorder which could have been avoidable by getting it together with someone who isn't related to you. I think this is also termed 'Genetic Sexual Attraction' when family that haven't seen each other for a very long time suddenly come together again, biololgically they are very drawn to each other. The most extreme cases are half brothers and sisters who've never met and yet fall for each other.
Know that their are biological reasons for what you are feeling.
But in the end, it's not illegal and you are not doing anything that can be construed by equally normal, intelligent people to be wrong. If you think you've got something special, then follow it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd if i do wait it out.. and possibly not see him alot.. and when we do see eavhother which is enevitable..it all comes back.. i dont think i am the kind of person to just ignore my feelings im driven by them.. my instincts guide me not my mind.. is that a bad way to live? I dont think If this should happen to evolve into something more whether its years months or days from now..i would be able to deny this.. because when i wrote the story i didnt write all of it.. im currently in a same sex relationship for the first time.. with a girl ive been dating for 5 months now.. so it wuld not be the need just to want to be loved or feelings of security I have thought alot of this through and he has made me feel so completely at ease with everything like nothing matters when im with him.. i just ohhh man im just so completely lost.. its literally affecting my everyday life.. i need serious assistance, lol wheter its form a therapist i dunno!! lol but i need so help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Yeah, I had that same experience happen to me. It wasn't with my first cousin but with a far away cousin. Anyways, I just stopped talking to him for a while, now I am fine. I think I was just crushing over him. Just try not to talk to him for a bit. It is not right to be with your cousin (imho)
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reader, ssejotin  +, writes (14 October 2008):
just so you know you are not skrewed up, and there really isnt anything wrong with it...it like being gay i guess some people frown on it others dont, it not illeagle and it not considered incest.. if you were to have kids you have roughly a 96% chance that your child would be fine (if it were to go that far) while "normal couples" have a 98% chance of having a healthy child so it not that much of a diffrence. In the us it is illeagle in about half da states to be with a cousin but it not adnoraml. its perfectly healthy and fine... I knw because i am in love with my cousin and i have done extensive research if you go to www.cousincouples.com you will see all the facts best wishes to you, remember the hardest partfor a lack of better words is " coming out of da closet" with it. You will get alot of critisism for it but stay strong if your meant to be together than go for it, dont let others run you life you are in charge of your own.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 October 2008):
 No you are not screwed up at your age, but you know that it's not right to become sexually involved with close relatives - and should know that most of your feelings are due to raging hormones. That means that you are at the very right age to procreate, as apparently nature intended, and you are extremely attracted to males in general. I'm on the other side but remember it fondly from my youth. Anyway, learn where to draw the line despite family love (or any other) and use responsible judgement.
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