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writes:I wonder - im still a virgin and this one guy wants to have sex with me but we are not going out , do you think its wrong to lose your virginity to someone you don't go out with ? and yeah im jst 16 years old
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reader, Louise_xx  +, writes (16 October 2008):
i was also in a situation like this all of my friends had lost there virginity and i hadn't so i felt the need that i had to do it to fit in...my advise is that you shouldn't feel like you have to do something if you know that its not what you want, you should really think carefully about this, if it is what you want then thats your desion just make sure you do use protection, if your not sure if you want to or if you dont want to then dont.you shouldnt feel that you have to do something to make someone else happy. i feel that when you have sex with someone for the first time, it should be an experience to remember, but its not great like everyone makes it out to be, for some people it can be uncomfortable and slightly painfull.don't just do this to satisfy him,, it needs to be okay with you and if its not then he should respect that!
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reader, fbfdiva +, writes (16 October 2008):
 i had a situation like this im 17 and this guy i was talking to asked me if i would do it with him. i kept putting off the answer and eventually he showed his true colors he only wanted to get my virginity. i am still a virgin because i want to lose it to someone special. so if u feel ur ready to start having sex make sure your smart and use a condom and know just because everyone is doing it u dont have to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): well my opinion is that, you should be ready, and make sure you feel right about it.
if your unsure about having sex with him, don't do it.
don't let him pressure you into doing something your just not ready for. use protection, and be wise about the choice your gonna make. virginity is gods most precious gift(:
good luck!!
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (14 October 2008):
before i answer this i'm going to say one important thing, make sure you are 16, i still think that's too young, but if you're going to do it, u will do it. also make sure you are really ready for sex. if you're not, don't do it.
ok now to the answer. well i don't think it matters too much, as a girls first time is not always something that is nice to remember. It;s uncomfortable, sometimes painful and just abit awkward. so when people say it should be with someone special i think thats great if you have that someone special, but if it's just someone who u like and have chemistry with, then why not. As long as you use protection and feel ready.also never do anything you don't want to! just don't expect your first time to be like how it is in the movies. but it;s an experience everyone goes through. so just make sure you are happy with what u decide on.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (14 October 2008):
 I'll refrain from being judgmental, since I was active at your age as well, but how cheap is one of the your most intimate moments in your life? Might it at least be with someone you care about - and who really cares about you?
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reader, SarahOwen +, writes (14 October 2008):
You haven't actually mentioned in your letter whether you want to have sex with him. Which is kinda important. You don't have to sleep with someone just because they are offering...
And whatever you do, whenever you do sleep with someone, use a condom. Nothing beats barrier protection. Except more barrier protection.
:)
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