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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years whom i hope to marry. For the first 6 months of our relationship he gave me oral sex. Since then it has been an uphill battle. How can i get him to enjoy giving me oral sex? Yes i am healthy down there, and he says he has a mental block. I do want that kind of intimacy in my life.
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reader, vodkagirl48  +, writes (15 October 2008):
Who says that he has to like giving you oral sex? Maybe, just maybe, he doesnt enjoy giving you oral sex! ok, so he did that for the first six months, but he was making a good impression for you, doing what he thought you wanted him to do. But surely you wouldnt want him to do something he didnt enjoy ? Dont force him, to do something he doesnt enjoy... suppose the boot was on the other foot, and he asked you to do something that you didnt enjoy doing. relax, he still wants to make love to you, just not orally! whats wrong with that... ???
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reader, babomi  +, writes (15 October 2008):
 why u WANT this kind of intimacy? is the rest unsatisfactory? or u re looking for a proof of something else, desire, love, whatever? or because u judge it s so common u can t imagine somebody not having it and being loved?
because if u insist too much, and sex is a sensitive issue in a guy s mind, he can be offended and feel diminished for his overall performance
going upfront against somebody s sexual attitudes is a tricky and dangerous, with mines and bombs ready to explode at every step ...
if u decide to stop to give him oral sex, tell him why beforehand, keep talking, it s so easy to have ur sex life and ur relationship slip out of control
is it worth it?
accept it or not, but i agree with you, don t settle for constant frustration
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): We all want that kind of intimicy but how much does it really matter to you, really? If you give him oral sex than by rights it should be mutual but some things are just repugnant to some people and maybe you should respect that their are some things he won't want to do, as their could be things you wouldn't want to do.
You can't make him enjoy. You can only make him do it.
Good Luck!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 October 2008):
 Well, are you giving him oral pleasures? If yes, then you could begin to withhold the blow jobs. If you are not providing that service, you could offer. In any case, my opinion is that oral pleasure is and should be mutual.
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