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writes:my bf is 22 he was still a virgin we've only done it twice but he says it hurts him alot is it normal?
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reader, Undisclosed  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 Hi,
I’m sorry to hear that his first two experiences weren’t enjoyable. There are many reasons why sex may be painful.
First, if he is not circumcised, the foreskin of the penis will be attached to the head of his penis. Each penetration will pull back the skin and consequently the band of tissue that connects it to the head making it very painful. Try to learn which parts of him penis are sensitive, not sensitive, painful (let him direct your hand).
Second, if the head of his penis is particularly sensitive it can be particularly painful to have it rub against either the rubber of the condom or your vaginal walls. You might want to but a both of plain generic lubricant (either of you might be allergic to anything fancier). A tiny drop inside the condom and lots on the outside will reduce the friction and make things less painful. You may find that you won’t need any lubricant for him later on but some couples still choose to use it.
Third, putting on a condom was a particularly painful experience for me. I did not think this was abnormal at all as this is simply the way it was done and would often times lose my erection because of it. Then my gf pulled out a box of large condoms which she had purchased and it made an incredible difference. I had never in my previous sexual relations thought of this. You may want to try different sizes until you get the right fit.
Fourth, the condom must be put on properly. Make sure you pinch the tip before unrolling it so as to avoid a (painful) air bubble between the penis head and the condom lining. Leave a tiny bit of slack at the tip of the condom to accommodate the motions of intercourse while making sure the base is snug. Also, some condom designs have a lot of room in the front.
Fourth, penis and vagina sizes vary. If your vagina is relatively tight, this may be painful to him. Take things very slowly.
If he also experiences this pain when he touches himself, he should consult a doctor. Otherwise you may want to consider the above suggestions.
I hope this helps. Let us know if things improve.
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reader, Everoth +, writes (20 October 2008):
 maybe its too pleasurable and hes confusing the pleasure overload with pain? take it slow and let him do his thing at his own pace and see if it'll work out that way, allowing him to get used to the sensation
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (20 October 2008):
 No, that would not typically be considered at all normal.
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