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writes:i am 15 im currently dating a 19 year old we stay friend and arent intesrested in sex until were married but i have been told it is illegal to be four years of age to date but in two montshs i will be 16 and he had just turned 19 is it wrong because were friends and are dating but do not plan on having sex Reply to this Question
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reader, CheerleaderXx +, writes (7 October 2009):
I was in the same situation when I was 15.
I was dating a kid who was 19 but his parents and mine both were fine with it.
How do yours feel or do they even know about it.
It's not wrong and I'm glad to know you guys are keeping sex out of your relationship.
Keep it that way, sounds like you two have a good thing going.
good luck.
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reader, Yawzah +, writes (3 October 2009):
I think you shouldn't date him. You are too young, and believe me you will regret it later.
The thing is...sex isn't happening now, but eventually it will and even at 16 it's too young. SOund like an old fuddy duddy, but I'm concerned for you.
Wouldn't you want to wait and be sure? You can get caught up in the moment, and what happens if/when you become pregnant? Both of you are way too young to get into that situation.
I wish you the best--and truly hope you think with your brain (you sound smart).
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Yes, it's ok but do keep sex out of the relationship until you are of legal age in your state. When early in life, the difference in age is more important than in our later years.
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reader, neetesh  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 It is not wrong, there is not major age difference, it is common.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): It's not legally wrong for you to spend time together without sex (including kissing and touching). But it's a bad idea.
Even if he is 19 and is genuinely willing to not kiss and do the other things he would do with a g/f his age, there's something wrong if he wants to hang out with a girl who is so much younger. He should be with people his own age -- if he gets along better with younger people, it suggests his emotional development isn't what it should be. That happens, but it's not particularly good for you.
More often guys like that are using their more 'worldliness' to get into your pants. He will say that he wants to wait for marriage (or whatever milestone you set), and then will work at moving your boundaries. If he's patient enough, it often works.
Even after you've turned sixteen in a couple of months, in most states intimate contact, even short of intercourse, will still be illegal.
A relationship with him is almost certainly a bad idea.
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