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writes:This guy I've been casually seeing and sleeping for a while with has never been able to cum with me. He says that it's been a long time since he's been able to finish with a girl, whether it be actual sex or oral. He says that I do a really good job, but he just can't cum because he lasts a really long time. Does he have a problem, like physical, mental block, or emotional? Or is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): same case with me. I can not seem to cum during sex with my wife. I worked overseas, and after a year I go on vacation for 2 months. During sex with my wife, I'm finding it hard to ejaculate. I believe it is because I have gotten used to masturbation during my absence.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Presuming that your "guy" is anywhere near your age, and apparently healthy, then his problem is quite abnormal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): well personally, i need my guy to cum. sex just isnt fullfilling for me if he doesnt! as for there being something wrong with him, i dont think so. he might just be able to last a long time. as long as he is reassuring u that YOU are not the problem, and YOU are gaining pleasure from this sex, then id say just wait it out girl :) he will cum sooner or later! maybe when u guys are more comfortable and secure with eachother (if that is in store for your future). but in the meantime, have fun!
-Bunny3
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 No, but it does happen.
It is a common believe that men need to last long to be good in the sack. You can learn to delay the orgasm because women tend to need a bit more time then men.
But it can be overdone and then the penis becomes desensitized. Think of it as going through the sleep barrier, put of going to sleep for long enough, and you will no longer be tired or being able to sleep.
He needs to relax and stop worrying about when he is going to come and just let it happen. But you will be going against years of conditioning that says "longer is better".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): It might be medication. I had an ex who couldn't cum because of medication he was taking. He stopped taking them and the problem went away.
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