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writes:Dear friends,I am really shocked as i have discovered that my boyfriend of three years has an adultfriend finder account. I would have never expected such a thing from a guy who is so conventional in sex and so serious. Also, even though his profile denotes that he's straight and he is looking for a woman/women, his network of friends includes a couple (man and woman). I suppose someone's network includes past and present sexual encounters, in which case my boyfriend has, presumably slept with the couple. Hence, he is also bisexual. Am i right?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2008): Well no not really. If he met with this couple he may have only done something with the woman, the man merely being present.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): Doesn't mean he ever acted upon anything. Three years ago I too had an Adult Friend Finder account. I thought maybe I wanted to have a sexual experience with another woman. When it came down to it, I discovered I really didn't want to, and it was just a fantasy, that's all it was. I never actually met anyone in person from that site, but merely corresponded a few times with a few different women.
I deleted or hid the profile, or so I thought. Three years ago. Apparently it is accessible and viewable again, as I have received e-mail notifications recently that I have messages waiting from other women who have apparently seen my profile - which is supposed to be long gone!
Even if he did hook up with this other couple, does not mean he was physical with the man. Maybe your bf just watched them together, or maybe the man watched your bf and the woman together.
The other poster is right - this could all be in his past, and something he just experimented with.
I think first you have to ask yourself the question, "how would I feel if I did find out my bf was bi? Would it change the way I feel for him?". And how do you feel about him having a profile where he is looking to hook up with 2 other strange women? That would not make me very happy! Unless you are okay with it and might even want to join in on the action. It's whatever you feel comfortable with.
No matter what, I think you need to discuss this with him, and hopefully he will reveal all and tell you the truth, so that you can put this to rest and decide what to do next.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 Not necessarily. Maybe he slept with the wife only. There are some couples that do that.
The key problem here is whether he is still using his account.
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reader, xxidkxx  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 wow, thats crazy
i dont no what to say
even if he is/was bi that dont change anything..
you shouldnt change how you feel or anyhing like that, maybe he didnt tell you because he didnt no how to.. or that was his past and he wants to just leave it there.
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