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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I think I am falling in love with my friends w/benefits. I picked him as my FWB because I didn't see any future with him because he has 3 kids and 2 exwife at 28years old. We are compatible in every way and have the best of time when we are together. He is single too, and recently told me that he thinks about me every day and feel that we are meant to be w/each other because we are perfect for each other. The truth is I am scared to death! I don't want a serious relationship because of my divorce. (I have one child) We really are night and day and from two different worlds and background. I really don't know how he fits into my life/my friends ect. and if they will accept him.All I know is that our feelings are growing stronger for each other everyday..but I want to be careful who i bring into my daughter's life. I don't want to make a mistake and choose the wrong guy if I do decide to pursue this. I should walk away...to protect myself, but I don't know how. I know he would do anything for me and make me very happy, but if you look at "status" ..security,...it's all iffy. Also reason why he has two ex wives is because he did 3 tours in Iraq and was never around.And his wife found someone else. They still have a good relationship with each other. He discussed how guilty he felt about the whole situation. One thing i do admire about him is he became a father as a teenager and took responsibility in supporting his child ..marrying the mother of his child.ect.He said he will be medically discharge soon and want nothing more than to be with me. He said he will wait for as long as it takes and will prove to me that he is the right one for me. The truth is I've never met anyone that made me laugh, is comfortable with, and is so fun to be around like I am with him. I can be myself and we talk about everything and anything. However, I know all new relationships are great in the beginning. The thing I like about him is his loyalty. I know this guy will be with you through thick and thin and would do anything for the people that he love. I've weighed the pro's and con's and so far the pro's won. But Again...the thought of being a step mom to his kids, ?dealing w/his ex, being there for him. (he was injured) and deals with a lot of pain physically. That's not what I saw in my future. but what if this could be the love of my life and i walked away and missed out on it?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 December 2008):
 You need to take your chances. He seems a good guy, though. Loyal and responsible, which is a lot more than what you can say these days.
By the way, make sure you're good for his children, too.
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