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writes:Hi...just a question about sex. Do people involuntary moan during sex? Is the thought of being turned on so much that it's completely impossible to resist doing so? And when do people usually moan during it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 December 2008):
 (Idea): Why do cats moan?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (10 December 2008):
This reminds me of a joke they told me. It was in Spanish, so I tried to sort of translate it. I have the feeling that it exists in other languages, too.
Oh! John, don't do that...
Oh! John, don't do...
Oh! John, don't...
Oh! John....
Oh!...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): I moan involuntarily - it just happens. Even when I try not to. Some people, however, are almost silent during sex. It entirely depends upon the person.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (10 December 2008):
You moan if it feels good. You dont do it on purpose, it just comes out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): I moan alot because sex pleases me alot. Plus, my partner loves it when I make moaning sounds ;) So, in my experience, it is because of the pleasure and thrill. It's the most irresistable thing on earth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): http://www.thefreedictionary.com/dyslectic.
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/dyslexic
For the last time the site doesn't enter the user profile.Its the user who does it.So we never know if Mr.Undisclosed is 14 or 24 or 44 or 64.
As long as he warms up people's temperature with out having coffee,it shouldn't be an issue.;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Ms.Anon before you make any snide remarks about me again,check this site out.
http://library.thinkquest.org/2705/
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): I'm just playing with this site, so I'm anon and won't be a bother to Fade much longer. But I'm sorry Bugs, I wasn't be accusing you of dyslexia or how you spelled it :} I was referring to 'this site' putting in 23 instead of 32...? Now he's 24?, I feel dyslexic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Hey I just realised MS.ANONYMOUS that you thought I was dyslexic.English is not my first language.My mother tongue is different.
I am tired of being bullied.
It didn't even strike that you are calling me a dyslectic.The reason being I am a senior software engineer who is currently specializing in Artificial Intelligence.Which you may definitely need,since you don't know to check a user profile.
I came here for a sore throat.I made great friends and I stayed on.
Regarding Dyslectics,I have great respect for them.They are much more intelligent than us normal human beings.More than I can say for you- who looks down on them.
Check my answer out on this link.Never look down on a dyslectic again.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-a-hopeless-loser.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Darn Fade!I have tears in my eyes.:-)
Thanks for the support.Hugs,Bugs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Ms.Anonymous,
http://www.dearcupid.org/people/undisclosed.
Yesterday Mr.Undisclosed was 23.Today he is 24.I hope he is not dyslexic enough to jump from 32 to 42 in one day.From his answer,Nah I don't think so.
I am not offended he answered anon's question.I am glad he did.I am offended that he picked up on the "lazy" part of my answer.He couldn't understand my sense of humor.I couldn't understand his erotica.Fair enough I say.
I never once thought that he was coming on to me.I am not that conceited.
Diovan I am not touching his answer with a barge pole.Its literally smoking!A volcano is less hotter.I hope that makes you feel happy.:-)
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reader, daletom  +, writes (9 December 2008):
Mr. "Undisclosed" gave an excellent answer!
The only thing to add, is that women tend to be more vocal than men. About half of all women will vocalize their pleasure in some non-verbal way (moans, gasps, sighs, screams etc), especially near the start of orgasm. But less than a quarter of all guys do - by some accounts, only around 10%. I don't know if some guys suppress it because it's embarrassing, or unmanly, but girls like to have their partners express pleasure in audible ways, just as much as guys like to hear it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): If anyone touches Mr Undisclosed question they're gonna have a big fight with me.... I'm reading again and committing it to memory....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Why are you so offended he answered Anons question Bugs? I don't think he's trying to come on to you as you think. It's 22 degrees outside, and he warmed me up without a cappaccino! 23? how can that be? maybe they were dyslexic and he's 32.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Well...It was not me who asked the question.It was "her" who asked the question.
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reader, Undisclosed  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 Whoa! Looks like I provoked quite a reaction! haha
He asked a serious question. I thought I'd give him a serious answer. I'm sorry if I offended anyone. You can vote to remove my opinion if you really find it obnoxious and offensive.
I think that when you're curious, everyone's input is valuable in forming your own opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): PPS: Is the answer to the question anything to do with whips?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): PS: Has anyone got any ice? Some of you are right, it is a little hot in here, I do wonder why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Hey thanks Mr Undisclosed, I was wonder how I might find some exercises to tighten up my butt, that's how you get them quads to work, I might just try that, thanks for the advice.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Mr.Undisclosed I was joking about the lazy part.Haven't you heard all Erotica and no Humor makes Mr.Undisclosed an obnoxious 23 year old.Yes He is just 23 years old.
What do they teach at Uni these days?Brrrr.....
I hope the comment about the partner being a lucky guy was for Ms.Anonymous.
If it was for me,Back off!I am not here in this thread to talk about my sexual life.Grrr....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I nearly had a Tropical Moment myself!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Could someone open a window? It's kinda warm in here....
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Not sure whether Mr. Undisclosed's temperature went up or not, but he did something for mine! No wait, just a hot flash.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Does anyone else feel a rise in temperature from Mr. Undisclosed?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 December 2008):
Uncle Phil, sometimes I simply can't restrain myself. It's a character flaw.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): You're too quick, Tisha! I thought that one would pass by for a while. Oh well, never mind eh?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 December 2008):
People make noise during sex usually because things feel powerfully stimulating in a good way. Generally, if someone has "let go", that is, just turned off the rational part of the brain and just feels sensations, and they make noises like moaning, it's just a sign that they are into it and enjoying it.
People can moan at any time during sex, everyone is different, so you can't guess what's happening by the noise.
And Uncle Phil, the "sort of natural reaction when you get an organism" should be to head straight to the clinic to have that infection seen to. ;D
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): When there's kids or guests in the house it's not too difficult to stifle the odd moan, which is a sort of natural reaction when you get an organism.
I've found the best way to make her moan is to wipe your dick on the curtains. Useful tip, that one.
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reader, Undisclosed +, writes (8 December 2008):
Hello!
As for the first question:
People moan because they are enjoying themselves. Not everyone moans; some are very quiet lovers.
First, when you moan you exhale briskly or slowly and this relaxes your muscles and accentuates the pleasure. With every moan you feel it in waves and it really enhances the mounting pleasure towards climax. If you're body is completely relaxed, some moans should still escape your lips from the very motion of it all. If partners are still quiet it might mean that they are shy and are holding back, that they have never moaned during sex, or that they are not completely relaxed with you.
Second, moaning is an important type of communication. When your partner does something you like, you moan. When you do something she likes, she moans. Sex is all about intimacy and when you communicate you get closer. You're thinking about their pleasure and their moans are an open window to finding out what they are feeling. It's hard to feel this connection otherwise. Talk to each other.
Third, a moan should be genuine. So when we're talking about a moan, we're not always talking about what one would hear in a porno. A moan can be so tiny. It can be your partners lips an inch away from your ear letting out a tiny "Oo" - hardly audible. Don't fake moans. If you're both comfortable with each other and sex, and your body is relaxed and open to pleasure (and necessarily vulnerable) you really can't help but emit little sounds as you do. These will naturally grow louder once you finally let go psychologically and immerse yourself in the moment. I admit that this didn't happen to me the first few times. It takes time and experience.
Enjoy!
As for the second question:
If your male partner is holding your hands as you ride him, it could mean a number of things:
- He could feel a closer connection to you when he does
- He could be offering you a support even if you don't think you need one
- He could be guiding you and telling you the rhythm that he enjoys
- He could be trying to dominate you by restraining your hands (I doubt this is the case from the context you provided)
On a side note, when the women is on top, it's not necessarily because the guy is lazy. This position is much more conducive to her pleasure than to ours (we prefer fast, quick and repeated penetration). In this position you can rock forward and rub your clit on his public bone. He should also feel bigger. I've been told that it's much easier to reach a clitoral orgasm in this position. Just switch things up a bit. This lets you build faster than him if you're looking to orgasm together.
If you're not rocking but bounding up and down with your quads, then yea, you're doing his work for him and if you're doing this all the time, you're partner's a very lucky man!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): "I have a question actually,if anyone can answer.What does it mean if your partner holds your hand,or both your hands, while you are on top of them ?."
I can only guess.So that you don't slap him for being so lazy and making you do all the work?
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (8 December 2008):
 personally, i think it makes it better
and you can't really help doing it sometimes
Answer to anonymous- Erm well it makes me feel more connected with them
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): i think it's just something that naturally happens,because you like the feeling,and you might even say it feels good,at the same time.I used to be embarrrassed about that,like i would moan because i was having orgasms,but my partner hasnt reached orgasm yet,so he hasnt moaned,i have got him aroused though,but i started to think that it's only natural,and you cant help it if you feel like moaning,or even saying stuff.Plus,your partner probably enjoys hearing it anyway !.i cant understand why people fake it though.I have a question actually,if anyone can answer.What does it mean if your partner holds your hand,or both your hands, while you are on top of them ?.
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