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writes:I've been talking to a new guy for quite a while now and it has been going well.. we have both admitted we like each other quite a bit and have spent some good time together.I never thought I'd get over my ex who I broke up with over 4 months ago now, but with this guy I feel like I have and that I can actually like someone else without any worries about my old boyfriend which is really good, however I think I just worry about irrelevant things which make me overthink and sometimes put me down.Things are going well and as I said we both admitted we like each other, we both work Monday - Friday but are able to talk all through the day when we get a chance, which we do mostly everyday which is good. I want to take things slow which I believe we are doing and not rush into anything because I don't think that is ever a good thing to do.. We haven't spoke about getting into a relationship or the actual subject of a relationship which obviously we don't have to do and it's not something I am eager/bothered about getting into straight away as we are well at the moment. I just think I am the kind of person who worries quite a lot other things I don't have to.. some days I think that he is talking to me in a different way or I think the way he is talking to me is less interested than before than normal but I think mostly I'm just thinking into it and being stupid. It's little things like that just that I overthink about which when thinking back to it is silly (I know!) But I just want to try be able to stop doing this.. I am happy at the moment with things but worry sometimes if my worries and thoughts get the better of me, which I don't think could as they are only little worries but I do wish they could stop.I want to make sure I don't get too attached quickly as I've been hurt before (mostly by the ex from a while back) and I think sometimes I do worry so much because I'm so scared of getting hurt again.Any words or thoughts???
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reader, MissFlossy  +, writes (27 August 2016):
I used to be like this... I recently read a book called "Don't sweat the small stuff, and it really is small stuff"...... it helped me a lot. As well as hypnotherapy which is free on YouTube, plus ASMR and meditation videos, also free and also on YouTube.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 August 2016):
 It is natural to worry when you have been hurt in the past, but you need to let go off that hurt. You say you have been single for four months, so the break up is still quite fresh. I think when you feel yourself worrying you should distract yourself with good thoughts. Almost like you are training your mind to think positively instead off being negative. Reading to much in to text messages can really make you paranoid as you cannot see someones body language behind some text. Therefore you will always read things wrong if you think negatively. Try bit by bit to think off something positive when you worry, if this does not work for you then I suggest maybe you go to some CBT classes.
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