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writes:Hi im an 18 yrs old girl,I got a problem with my mom,She's not used to wear sexy clothes when i was a kid but she changes what she wear's maybe 6 years ago?but that's not the problem,this past two years her personality changes,she keeps on nagging and she sometimes speaks so loud in public when she doesn't like what we do or what we look and its seriously embarrassing.By the way she and my dad separated last year,and she's having a relationship with guys.I cant tell her I hate what she's into right now cause she wont listen to me and she will definitely say something hurtful.Because of her personality I keep on seeing a guy younger than me so I'll be occupied for awhile but she doesn't know it.Im planning on going to another city with my older sister to get away from her for awhile,I just cant handle her now.i also think she's on menopausal stage.I just want to know what I need to do while im still with her?we just have a fight by the way..
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 You just had a fight with your mother so emotions are running high, allow yourself to calm down. Then talk to her and tell her how you are feeling, but also ask her how she is feeling.
You say she wears sexy clothes but did not used to. Well I guess you her children have grown up now and she wants to live her life and feel good about herself, there is nothing wrong with that. So maybe instead of judging your mother, you can tell her when you think she looks nice.
Okay so you say that's not the problem her personality is changing. You think she is at menopause stage, so this is probably more than likely why your mother is changing, her body is changing and her hormones are all over the place. This could also be a factor in why your parents split up as the menopause can be hard on the whole family. But she is your mother, and she does love you, and she will get back to herself in time. I know it is hard but you just need to be an adult and be there for her.
She will be hurtful to you as you are being hurtful to her, you cannot tell her you hate who she is or what she does, but do tell her what you do like and what she does that is nice, try be more positive to your mum, she is going through a hard time.
You say you are seeing a younger guy, how much younger? You blame your mother for this, but you are an adult and your mothers behavior does not mean you have to go behind her back. Why not sit down and tell your mother you are seeing someone? You are an adult.
I think you need to be honest with your mum, tell her you plan to go with your sister, tell her you need a break and that you hope she will be happier when you are back.
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