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writes: so I've been dating my be for 9months, everything has been perfect but for 2-3months my bf has changed, he doesn't converse and have laughs with me anymore, he just seem so serious and hardly smile. He doesn't even talk to me I do all the talking and he will just give me 1 word answers, he gets irritated and it seems like I'm doing something wrong? I'm a good girl, I listen to him and do whatever a good gf does but I don't think he's happy with me. I've told him he's been acting weird lately and should talk if there's anything wrong but he says he's fine he's just tired from work. He's just changed, he's so serious and he has this look on his face just saw him, haven't seen him in a month and he doesn't even hug or kiss me, just look so serious. Is he not happy with me? We were making plans on getting married but I said we should stop as soon as he started this serious quiet behaviour. Has he just lost interest? I don't know what to do. He doesn't even smile anymore or talk to me:( what should I do? I'm so confused:( my mum likes him and says he's a good guy but I don't feel like he's happy with me. We'd be driving for 30mins and he won't say a word to me:( Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 Don't think about marriage until you are 100 percent sure that you are both in a happy relationship. It sounds like you are trying very hard and you are working hard on this relationship. He may be depressed and needs help. Is he only miserable and quiet around you, or is he the same with everyone else? He may have depression. Or yes he may have got bored. Either way you need to tell him that the relationship will not work like this and see what he has to say.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (11 August 2016):
 The bit where you say "I am a good girl, I listen to him and do whatever a good gf does" really worries me. You've only been together 9 months yet have already discussed getting married, even though, for the last 2-3 months, your bf has been acting strangely? And you don't see each other for a month yet he doesn't even hug or kiss you?GET OUT OF THERE. You deserve better. He MAY be a "good guy" but imagine years and years of living with someone who doesn't acknowledge your existence. It will destroy you.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (11 August 2016):
 He sounds depressed. Have you expressed to him how severe the toll is on the relationship? I feel like you really need to lay out that your relationship is at a crossroads, that his mood is not just one bad day or one rough work experience, it is a pattern and he needs to open up. If that doesn't help, I would see if he would be open to counseling. If he isn't, you can only reach out to someone so much; at that point, you would have given him fair warning this was damaging you two, and I would leave the relationship.
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