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anonymous
writes:So I've been speaking to this guy since December. We met online and he perked up courage to ask me on a date in April. We went on a really nice cinema date before he left for work again offshore.We have recently went on another date at his which I found to be really personal. We speak (or try to) every day over text and see each other when we can.I've told my friends that I've met someone and been on 2 dates and they keep asking "so what are you two". Is it too early to define the relationship? I mean I know I want to give things a go, just I don't know if that's what he wants. He doesn't like to rush into a relationship which makes me think i shouldn't tell him how I feel. My friends made a valid point of that I need to know where I stand, am I single or taken? But should we define the relationship?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 You have been talking for eight months, and yet only two dates, I wonder what it is that is stopping you both making more off an effort, is it long distance? Is he away with work a lot? If so then yes it is to soon to ask, but if more off an effort could be made and you are both just not setting up dates then maybe it might be best to end this if you feel you are not receiving enough from this set up you both have.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 August 2016):
 I think it's too soon to decide if you're a couple, but not too soon to decide if you're exclusively dating each other and nobody else.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 August 2016):
 I think it's a tad soon, ONLY because you have only HAD two dates in person. However, if you two have been talking since December - it's a GOOD 8 months of talking - and thus NOT (IMHO) not rushing it to ask him.
I would also KEEP sex off the table till you both are ready to either commit or not. And IF you want a relationship and he isn't "ready" to decide after talking to you for 8 months... maybe he isn't the right fit for you.
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