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writes:I am single guy, wondering what it would be like to have sex with this guy i know. How do i go about asking him. i think he is gay but really don't know for sure. i fantasize about sex with him all the time, Oh by the way i never have had sex with a guy before. When i have sex, with a woman, i fantasize about him. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 August 2016):
 Lesbian, gay, straight or bi-sexual it does not matter, most want more than sex, and even if they don't they need to be attracted to the other person, with chemistry. I don't think you should ask him for sex. Maybe talk to him, get to know him better and see what he likes and if he is gay. Maybe then tell him your fantasy off being with a man for sexual reasons only and see what he says. But if you are married please leave these fantasies alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2016): Dear sir, don't let your fantasies overrule your common-sense. You don't even know for sure if the man is gay. Even more importantly, if he is the least attracted to you if he is.
You're a mature gentleman and you have to handle this with a little more dignity and reason. If you're having sex with a woman, I hope you are not committed to this woman. If she is your wife, you'll have to make a choice. Between your reality or your fantasy. You will have to forgo your fantasy until you have ended your commitment. Cheating is a no go.
I don't recommend you ask him. I think you should get to know him as a person and just be friends. Keeping your hands and your fantasies to yourself. If there is a remote chance he is gay and attracted to you, I guess you'd have to base what you're going to do about it on the given opportunity. Just because he's gay, doesn't mean you can just march right up to him and proposition him for sex. I think you know better than that.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 Just sex? Chances are that even if he's gay he won't be up for that. By all means, go ahead and ask, if you think it's wise. If suggest going on a ONS site and finding a (safe) gay man, though.
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