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*ofie93
writes:Hello, I'm in a really weird situation. I'm a student and I live in a house with 6 other people. One of them is Joe, and I ever since I've met him I've had a crush on him. The past year we've become really close friends, he's a sweet guy but he's also out of my league. The last year was very heavy for me, I've lost 3 my grandparents and my brother was diagnosed with MS. And I'm struggling in school. Joe has been really supportive for me the last year. I'm telling this just so you know that he's a very important friend for me. And I'm not very willing to let him go. There is chemistry between me and Joe, and we have had our moments. There has been a lot of hugging between us, sometimes we slept together (just hugging, nothing more). But then one night when we got drunk together we did have sex. After that we talked and he said he didn't have feelings for me. I said I didn't want to hear anything from him anymore because I felt used and played. After a week of not talking we started talking, became very close friends. Then he got drunk and entered my bedroom and started hugging. I got angry because I felt like he used the alcohol as an excuus (which he did). And I felt that again he used me. (we didn't have sex that night, but still)I got very angry with him, after fighting for a week he said he did have feeling for me but not enough. We didn't talk for a week, then we started talking. And now we are constantly talking, and he will return to the house in a week. But he doesn't want to see me. We're going to be living together but he doesn't want to see me, even though we talk every day (almost every hour). In a month he will move out, he's going to live with his parents again because he's graduating and it's very far away from me. But what do I do, he's me best friend. I tell him everything, but I can't be friends with someone who doesn't want to see me. Can I?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2016):
 Sweetie he probably does not want to see you because he is embarrassed, he is your friend, and he mistakenly had drunken sex with you, but this took the two of you to do this not just him, so it should not all have been his fault, you both consented to sex, at least he was honest with you about it. However the second time he creeped in to your room drunk you should have said to him to get out. It will be awkward for a few days between you I am sure, but just behave the way you always did and it should all go back to normal quick enough. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2016): Of course he will see you in all kinds of house situations!Leaving the bathroom in a towel or gown or in the kitchen!Its almost inevitable that your paths will cross, but what he doesnt plan on doing is dating you!That means no more slipping into your room when drunk and no more waking ypo in your bed.No more embarrassment the morning after the night before and no more accusations of him using you!Maybe he even has a girlfriend by now ,but this guy has taken on board that he has upset and hurt you in the past and he wants to leave on very respectful terms.He wants you to forgive him and move on but there is no reason why ordinary pleasantries cant occur.He feels bad that the sex was rubbish drunk sex and it has mixed his emotions,so rather than consider yourself out of his league i think he feels he messed it all up and there is not enough time left to recover the situation.
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