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writes:Hello,I have only known my boyfriend for a week and we seem to have a connection. The only problem is I don't want to have sex with him as I have never had sex before. I feel as though I'm not ready for it. I feel as though he does. He said to me he will wait until I am ready, but I feel like he keeps dropping hints to me. I'm 21 years old. I love him I just am not ready for sex, and I'm worried he will leave me because of it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 January 2017):
 Sweetie at 21 you should know that a relationship does not blossom in a week. You are not in love, you just love the idea off being with someone. Love takes a while. You barely even know this guy and if he is hinting at sex already then you can guess that is all that he wants. If you are close enough to be in a relationship with him then you should be close enough with him to tell him that you are still a virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2017): Sounds like he is acting a bit pushy!
Pushy guys tend to show much less committment because they want fast love!
They also like to drop you fast!
Consider looking for a more sensitive guy!
He is not acting like quality but you know you are quality.
A decent bloke would spend more time getting to know you rather than trying to get into your pants as fast as he can!
It might be a good idea to knock him back and tell him he's not the one for you if he isnt behaving respectfully.
You are definately going to have admirers so dont put out and let him take your virginity at the speed of a pimp unless you can handle shoddy postcoital treatment.
Make him work for it !
Make sure there is more to him than his sex drive.
All guys will stop for a quick bit of sex but tbhey zoom on just as fast so at least get to the stage where you are together all the time because you enjoy each others company and also can talk about most things and also he is needing tk be reliable.
If youve only known him a week he could already have other partners and you would have no idea!
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 January 2017):
 No, you've been true to yourself and reserved your virginity for the right man. If he can't appreciate the heck out of that then he is NOT the right man for you plus it takes more than 7 to 10 days to evaluate someone. You're not in love yet. You're just infatuated(like a crush) don't jump into just any old relationship... Reserve your feelings for the right one...You'll know when it's right. For now just cool it and keep reviewing the potential out there. You only have one tie to give yourself to someone make sure first.
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reader, N91 +, writes (6 January 2017):
 You've known him for one week? You're definitely not in love.
If he ever pressures you into something you don't want to do then he's not the right person for you I'm afraid.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (6 January 2017):
 You don't love someone after a week - break up! It's too much too soon and he just wants sex. It's very clear that he's pushing you and using "love" to trick you into sex.
Please leave him; real love takes months to build and someone who respects and cares about you will not pressure you for things you don't want yet (or ever).
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