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Archived questions from: 4 January, 2011 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

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Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I'm capable of everything but romance. Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5059 days ago

4 January 2011 (?) - I'm a big overachiever in the arts. I'm applying for a well-respected art college in February, I'm in 2 bands, and I'm a performing dancer now. Not to brag, but I find I don't have much difficulty getting good at things, and I do all of the things I ...

I do have really low self esteem and I never feel good enough for him but I don't want to lose him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5061 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Hi Please can you help me? I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now and i really struggle being away from him i dont have many friends and i hate it when he goes out because i am always in by myself but recently my boyfr...

Help, do I just accept the psychopathic boyfriends' mother and her bad doings?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I get on fabulously, at least we did, until our argument just before Christmas 2010, which really has put permanent doubts about us in my mind. The thing is that his mum is a manipulative, controlling expert, whom I cannot win ...

My boyfriend's facebook "friends" make me very uncomfortable...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - My boyfriend recently added a girl he used to like on facebook. They originally kept in touch back in 2005, before i met him, and i think originally, they were intouch on msn, although i dont know where they first found each other. She lives in ...

Should I run?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I have a boyfirend who had found me after a number of years we were in love once and parted and he found me again * I'm a bit freaked out in the time we were apart he married and now has split from his wife he has a son to her his 25 year old step ...

He won't tell his ex about us!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5055 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I have been seeing my boyfriend for Four months now. Our relationship didn't exactly start in a dream way, since he was at the time in a relationship with another girl when we met. He has since ended his relationship with her to be with me ...

My boyfriend gets stressed and can't communicate his feelings!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5058 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - what to do if your b/f gets stress easily and frustrated. please help. my b/f will keep things inside he need to say, gets easily stress and frustrated. and sometimes he run from the truth or cant face or deal with reality, so what he does is block...

I want to know what went down when he cheated!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - my b/f cheated on me with another lady, yet he wont talk to me all he told me he have with a female. but i want to know what went down. everytime he say he have to talk to me he gets emotional about it and says its hard for him to talk to me i might ...

Into the unknown after ending of bad relationship.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - Hi. I am feeling scared and alone. Basically, I have never had a relationship with a girl before this year (I am a young adult). This girl was beautiful...but was egotistical, manipulative and untrustworthy. It took me months to free myself from the...

Lost and confused! Double standards?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Alright my dear friends...here we go. so im in love with my first love still. after being broken up for two years we chose to get back together. but since we've gotten back together. i dont feel confident. i feel like he's only with me bcuz im ...

My boyfriend punched my friend and said I can't see him any more

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 5033 days ago

4 January 2011 (?) - Today I was hanging out with my best friend(a guy) at a park and we were just talking and having a great time just hanging out. Well then my boyfriend came and got really mad that I was hanging out with my friend. My boyfriend was super mad and he p...

The relationship has gone down hill. Is it time to move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I want to know what happens in relationships. I have been with my boy friend for three and a half years. In the beginning he was willing to take me places and he said really nice things to me. My boy friend takes a lot of pain medicine for his...

Is it too late? Did I blow my chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I've been on and off with my ex bf for 9 months. And last week we were supposed to get back together and talk things through. So he picked me up and we ate breakfast at his place. We weren't talking much, so i decided to talk about issues that ...

I'm scared, lost, and unable to make a decision.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for a little over two years now. We started dating when I was a junior in high school and he was a senior. Our first date was perfect. In every way, we were perfect for each other. The first eight months were ...

My live-in boyfriend refuses to do nice things for me asks me to pay him each favour he does for me!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - ok me and my boyfriend been together since 1998,we broke up for 2 years 2004 to 2007 he did he left. long story and i want answers for lots of things but my question today is why dont he want to do anything nice for me?? he got nothing for me this ...

This girl keeps coming to me, then going back to the ex, again and again, why?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5054 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - I need help LADIES please answer this one, as you're the only ones that can... So I've been dating this girl, who is conflicted about her ex, but since I was so persistent, I guess she gave me a chance perhaps as a payback to her ex. My question is ...

My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5059 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...

Do you think a man who gets defensive is guilty?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 5053 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Do you think a man who gets defensive is guilty? I have been seeing this guy for 8 weeks at first we saw one another 3 -4 times a week suddenly after xmas we slowed down. He seems to be busy or had a quiet weekend. I am not buying it. Something ...

I know he is not good for me but I can't move on either!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - There is a guy, we met online a few years ago.I fell crazy in love with him, he said he loved me too and we would be together though I lived in Europe and he lived in Canada and we're from different cultures(he is a muslim). So after two years I ...

Should I apologize?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I had a best guy friend and I had a crush on him. We got into a huge fight. I said some pretty nasty things to him. He was messing with me, putting me down and ditching me. He wanted to apologize to me, but i wouldn't let him. For past few months, ...

He is a lot younger than me ... I am stupid!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Hello I have a problem and I feel so stupid! I am 27 years old and have slept with a 19 year old! He was asking me for my number etc I kept telling him I was too old for him,(even though I was extremely attracted to him and he acts a lot older) h...

How can I tell her she needs to make her mind up without risking our chances of getting back together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - Well me and my ex-girlfriend broke up may of last year 2010.We was together 8yrs got 2 kids and was wanting to marry each other.Not going to get into the reasons we split to keep it kinda short.I have done the no contact with her i have went out and ...

How do I just tell him enough is enough so I can move on with my life without him going totally insane?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - My bf and I have been together for just under 3 years. Its been a turbulent relationship especially this last year. He lies most times, conceals his whereabouts, constant accusations and I am tired of defending who I am to him. He minimized...

Why do men play games... how long should I wait for a call or should I call him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Just wondering from a man's perpective... how long should a girl wait for a guy to call? I met this guy on Facebook and we have a lot of mutual friends.. actually, he went to my high school, so I'm sure we'd have tons in common. Anyway, we kept ...

I lied about the number of people I slept with.....

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5059 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I told my boyfriend at the beginning of my relationship,I had been with 3 people before him,sexually wise. He believed it. Sometime later into our relationship,he became my fiancé and we are together. He asked me how many people I have been with. I ...

Does it mean that the girl is not important to him because he never gives her flowers?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5059 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - My boyfriend and I are together for 11 months now... and next month will be our first year anniversary together. He is a very boring person and hardly surprise me with things. AND HE NEVER GIVES ME FLOWERS BEFORE.... I am pretty bothered by t...

Opinions from neutral parties needed...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (?) - So I guess i'm just looking for opinions, hopefully reassurance...My girlfriend and I had been together for 3.5 years. We always fought and argued and were short with eachother and fought in front of our friends. I don't remember when it started, ...

Is he subtly trying to tell me he's not interested?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5051 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - A friend of mine often brings up "why are people gossiping, there's nothing going on between us". We do spend a lot of time together chatting, several hours at a time. We've cut back on that cos it has engendered a lot of gossip and it's detrime...

I want a baby but my boyfriend is not ready...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - This is my situation. I feel i am ready to have a baby now, my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years feels he is not. he wants to wait until he is 30. when he will 30, i'll be 33. i already have a 4 year old with an ex. i know i'm still young, but my biological ...

She jokingly said she might dump me, does this mean she doesn't love me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - I'm in a good relationship with my GF for the past 5 yrs, i love her so much to the extent that i can do anything to make her happy. Now she said i'm too harsh to her, because i do talk to her whenever she is doing something wrong especially if guys ...

There is a chance my little girl may not be mine, how do I handle this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5027 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - My girlfriend and me have been together for nearly 3 years and we have had our ups and downs but we always stay together because we love each other. We have just had a baby together and now it turns out that she slept with someone else around 9 ...

Two women and two daughters.....

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4 January 2011 (M) - I am a 37 year old man married for last 8 years; have a beautiful 6 year old daughter. Ours was a love marriage. 3 years before I met and fell in love with another woman and now we have a 5 month old daughter. The day i realized i am in love with ...

We got back together but I cant help but be annoyed by him all the time, even though he is a great guy!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Okay, so this is a very long and complicated story, but here goes. I've been in a relationship with this guy for almost a year and a half now. We broke up for three months recently, I 'rebounded' with someone else (as did he) then realised the oth...

He doesn't want to work, but I want a man who can be an equal partner and contribute to the relationship. Who is right here?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5061 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I've been dating this guy and apart from a few dates at the beginning and the occasional petrol money we split all the bills for the outings about 50/50. He pays slightly more as I am looking for work and he is working. The thing is I don't feel ...

Does he really love me even though he is seeing another man and refuses to give him up?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - Hi, I have been in a [gay] relationship for the past 4 years. he is 34 and I am 41... We live together... Last September, my boyfriend told me that he had been seeing a guy for the past 15 months, every weekend, to fulfill one of his fantasies....

I don't know how much more I can take!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - hey all, i am in a really desperate situation with my relationship, i met my boyfriend 15 years ago and we got caught out with our daughter a happy mistake we had problems pretty much straight away, him going out getting drunk ignoring my calls and ...

What a one way street!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - There is this girl i have been dating for the past 3months. We dated 5yrs ago as well for almost a year. Anyways, its funny how early on we have both expressed we love each other (soon i know but hey) she loves spending time with me, we have an ...

Leo guy has Libra female confused

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Recently got chatting to a british soldier deployed overseas. Seem to really click and have been chatting nearly every day for over a month. Have agreed to meet up when he is back from duty, which will be in a couple of months. Sometimes he is qu...

He's too broken to fix!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5060 days ago

4 January 2011 (?) - Hey there again. I have another issue. So I've been with my guy for about 1 year and 7 months. I love him to pieces, but I'm not sure where this is going. [I'm 21 he's 29] 1.He continues to tell me that he is not interested in marriage but wou...

I'm never going to get laid!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5057 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - hey everyone! just looking for some advice on what i should do...ive been going out with my girlfriend for 8 months and she refuses to have sex with me, will not even do oral stuff with me. she says she loves me but im not sure how to go about this. ...

Helpful advice wanted on my FWB situation

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I am looking for some advice or suggestions on what I should do in my current situation with my Friends With Benefits guy. disclaimer: this is long! Last March I broke up with my bf of 4 years as we fell too much into the "just friends" ca...

Did I deserve this treatment from her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - this is a long story but to get the full effect and so i may get honest opinions u need to know the enitre story thanks for your help everybody so here it goes I met this girl on a camping trip and it had been awhile since my last relationship but...

Why does he ask me out but never actually come through?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I can't figure this guy out and I don't know why I'm even bothering to do so. Normally I'm not this patient, if a guy shows signs of disinterest, then I move on. Which is fine, not everyone is going to fall in love with me. But with this guy, h...

She texts her ex in the same manner as she texts me, but cant see that it really hurts me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - My girlfriend and I had a fight today and it was because I saw the text between her ex and her. I noticed that she texts him the same way she texts me. She calls him honey and baby from time to time, and something it goes as calling him sexy, ...

What does my ex want from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5061 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - What does it mean when your ex says she hates you and she tells you she haves a boyfriend but wont say his name. like this Saturday she call me 2 times and i didnt pick up the phone. she was mad because she said her son wanted to come over to my ...

I am falling in love with my dead boyfriend's brother

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4516 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I think I may be falling in love with my deceased father of my children / boyfriend's brother. It's been 2 months now and we have this connection where we both can't stand going a day with out speaking to eachother. He has been great with me and the ...

He says he loves me, yet wont discuss our problems!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - why does my husband say he loves me more than anything in the world and yet does not want to discuss issues that hinder our relationship? ...

He wants to work things out with me, but doesn't want to be 'official' as he wants to be single. What is going on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - So I recently asked for help about a breakup. My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me because he wasn't sure what he wanted. He ended up going on a couple dates with another woman within a week of the breakup. Last week he finally realized he ...

How can I feel so deeply for someone that's been terrible to me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Okay here's my problem. There's a boy that I think I'm in love with. I've always told myself that there's no way I could love him because you can't love somebody you can't trust and you can't love somebody that can't love you back. It's so co...

Is this all normal behavior during sex?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Im in a new relationship and recently had sex with this man for the first time, during the act he spoke out about what he was seeing ie youve opened your legs wide for me, he shouted out on 3 occasions while looking away "fuckoff" as if to someone ...

Should I go with the flow? Or is it over?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Go with the flow? Or is it over? I met a guy online in the summer. He lives out of town so we met a few times, most recently over the holidays while he was in town. I texted him on December 30th and told him that "I missed him" and he repli...

We are 16, we have no money and have ran out of things to talk about! What can we do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5061 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and five months. We have talked about everything and and now it seems like because of that we have nothing to talk about, i believe another person had ask a similar question to mine but some ...

Should I give it a try with him even though I've heard bad things from my friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (?) - I have had an infrequent casual sexual relationship with a friend of a friend. He is the platonic friend of my girlfriend. Lately, I get the sense that he might want to deepen the relationship with me. I am not opposed to this and at times I f...

The dating scene seems to have changed since I was last in it

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5060 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - I'm trying to understand something since it looks like it may cause me a lot of pain in the future. I am now separated from my wife. It was a long term marriage (over 25 years) but with a lot of trials. In my state you have to be separated for...

Are my feelings justified?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (M) - Hello All, I am in need of some perspective due to an issue that's arisen lately in my relationship. First and foremost, I love this girl very deeply. It's very painful for me to write or talk about this, but I feel as though I need to...

How do I convince him of my love?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Basically, I think he is doubting my love for him, I think he is feeling insecure lately. I know that he has troubles with his parents fighting at home, he hasn't really told me much more. One of his good friends has recently gotten annoyed by him, ...

Why does he throw my notes away and not mention them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - So I live with my boyfriend and i try to leave him little notes before I go to work in the morning. The thing is he never says anything about them, EVER. Not once has he mentioned them or what i write in them. And what bugs me more is he throws them ...

He didnt get me a Christmas present!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5058 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months. I love him a lot and he says he feels the same way. For Christmas I got him a Wii, when I gave it to him it was before Christmas cause I was excited and didn't want to wait. He said that he didn't ...

I know I don't have a future with any of these guys, but they all like me and I don't know what to do!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Ahh! Ive got myself into a right daft pickle. I know im fully to blame but i dont know what to do! I split up with my ex, my first true love, of 2 years, about 8/9 months back now. Ill admit it broke me, but i thought i was over him! I got close to ...

Should I be worried that I look a lot like his ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - I just saw some photos of my boyfriend's ex on facebook and she looks a lot like me. So much so, that in 1 pic she looks EXACTLY like me - I can't even tell the difference! Does that seem really weird to you? I'm wondering if he cares so much for me ...

After we broke up we were still talking and everything seemed good, but then he told me to leave him alone! What happened?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - ok so me and my ex dated for 5 months we aggreed to dump each other because i honestly have no clue,he..is a person that has problems with expressing his feelings,but when he sis they were always honest every time,anyways after we broke up we ...

In love with a bad boy: Should I give him more time to change or am I being too caring?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Alright so, I figured I'd try a website like this out so I could get the opinions of people that arent biased. I've been dating this guy for almost 3 months now, and makes me happy, He's an overall good boyfriend, and never ceases to try to make m...

Am I unlucky in love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5060 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - here is a list of my exes.. tell me what you think.. (most recent first) just wanted a FWB ex-girlfriend and mother of kid cheated on him and it left him an emotional mess. I met him only a few weeks after she had dumped him for her other man, b...

What did I do that caused this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (?) - I need some advice, on how I contributed to this problematic relationship. The first 2 years were fine, but the last year that we moved in together was complete hell. She was always very insecure and would accuse me of being interested in ot...

Why is it that I feel like I should be with my ex even though I know it would be a bad thing to do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5058 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Ok, so i have an ex boyfriend. We have been together for almost 3 years. we have been talking since March 20,2008. In the beginning things were so good, which is what made me fall in love with him..but sooner than later things slowly starting ...

I know he's going to hurt me again, but I cant let go.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5062 days ago

4 January 2011 (F) - Well... I've always been really closed with my emotions and never let myself fall for anybody properly in case I lose them. Around half a year ago, I met this boy and although I knew it would be more than likely that he'd turn out to be really bad ...