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writes:So I live with my boyfriend and i try to leave him little notes before I go to work in the morning. The thing is he never says anything about them, EVER. Not once has he mentioned them or what i write in them. And what bugs me more is he throws them away. I don't know why this bugs me so much but I know I would show my appreciation for the little things like that. And i definitely wouldn't throw them away. I dont write much just stuff like have a good day sexy and ill be thinking of you, little things like that. Can anyone tell me why he wouldn't mention them. Why he throws them away. Am i reading too much into this because i feel like he doesn't like them or care that i take the time to do little things to let him know I care. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI write the notes for him. Not for me. Its my way of showing him that I care and am thinking of him. I don't expect him to write notes back or give me praise I just find it a little odd that he has never said anything at all about it. Thank you guys for taking the time to answer.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 He doesn't care. Or perhaps he thinks it's nice that you do it, but why would you need him to do anything in return? Do you only act nice to him to get something back?
Write the little notes and stop expecting anything in return. If he's not giving you attention or is sweet to you in his own ways in the relationship then adress that as a problem, don't make it about the notes.
If a boyfriend always left me little notes I'd think "aww, thats cute", then throw it away and be happy that I have such a cute guy in my life. Why the need to announce it each time you've gotten a cute note? And what would you have him do, store all the little notes in his locker?
You're reading way too much into this.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 January 2011):
I think you need to ask yourself why you're writing them. Are you writing them just for him, or are you writing them to get praise from him, or for him to suddenly proclaim his love?
Most men will read the note, smile, be happy and assume that that's all you want. Just because he doesn't say something about them doesn't mean he doesn't care. He does, otherwise he'd tell you he didn't like the notes.
You're reading way too much into this, and perhaps you need to look at why you're writing them. Is it for him? Or is it because you want him to show you that he loves you? If it's the second, than talk to him instead of leaving notes.
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