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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hey all, i am in a really desperate situation with my relationship, i met my boyfriend 15 years ago and we got caught out with our daughter a happy mistake we had problems pretty much straight away, him going out getting drunk ignoring my calls and leading a pretty much single life. he was very clever in the way he helped me loose all my friends by telling me that they were using me, telling me they were all down and outs and unsavoury people so i became paranoid even about my family but i thought he loved me and was looking out for me. for years i asked him for children, marraige or some kind of commitment he always said its not the right time, the relationship is not strong enough but it was him stopping it from being strong. then he started constantly wanting to have sex,anal like. all the time no normal.this stil goes on now 13 years later however i met this girl and we started goin out and i enjoyed being sociable i started cheating on him and didnt feel guilty cuz i believed id find my mr right and be happy. it all backfired because i didnt find mr right i let myself be used and humiliated now im an insecure paranoid untrusting mess. i tried to end the relationship with my daughters dad and i was doing well on my own then he started pleading to come back and made a huge effort and i do love him so i tried to put it all behind me and be faithful and a good person. our daughter says theres something about him she doesnt like but doesnt know what and dislikes him here because he made her life hell constantly going on at her. he wanted to build a relationship with her because she started being horrible to him. now he says he doesnt know if he wants to be single or in a relationship i am at my wits end and dont know how much more i can take. he has a good job a good social life i dont know many of his friends and he has all the control here because the effort he made changed my feelings for him i know i probably deserve all i get by cheating before anyone says it thanks and sorry its long just need someone to give me a reality check xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi , i posted this question and reading it back makes me sound hard done by, of course im not, i have too many faults what i mean to say is we were young when we met and have lernt alot can this be fixed xxx
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