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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been on and off with my ex bf for 9 months. And last week we were supposed to get back together and talk things through. So he picked me up and we ate breakfast at his place. We weren't talking much, so i decided to talk about issues that we've had before. I know I shouldn't talk about the past but I just wanted to make sure he won't do the same mistakes again. ( He cheated on me he was on a LDR with a random girl on facebook, he also make up stuff just to see how I would react. He's all into testing me.) So basically, instead of making up, we argued. It bothered me because he wasn't paying attention to me. He even fell asleep! I was so pissed off, I told him I didn't come over to watch him sleep. We were supposed to talk about our relationship. At that moment for some reason I just exploded and I cried. He thinks I was overreacting but it wasn't jus about what happended at that time. Even after I cried he still didn't get up his bed. So I walk out and told him he wasted my time. So I left his apartment, then I came back cuz I forgot my freakin phone! So when I came back he wasn't saying anything. I told him I guess you don't care. At that moment I told him everything that I've been building up inside. And yes, I was very emotional. But instead of making me feel better he was just telling me to stop crying (he was raising his voice). He was not showing any emotion at all. I told him I want to talk about everything right now but he said he can't. He kept on saying he will call me later. It hurt me even more. But the huge mistake that I did was I kept telling him to talk to me. He got so pressured that he told me to leave. Before I left I said maybe we should jus break up. He said fine! Then I told him he broke my heart. He said his heart is broken too. After 4 hours I txt him and I said I was sorry for acting that way I also said that if this is the end of us I deserve to have a closure. He didn't reply. I called him but he was ignoring me. This is the first time he ignored me, he usually call me back on the same day. But it has been 2 days now. I blew it. There was so much drama and he's probably sick of it. Im afraid that he gave up already. I feel like its my fault because If I just controlled my emotions then he wouldn't felt annoyed and pressured. So know im asking my self, what if this time he was serious about getting back with me? I blew my chance.
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reader, Ibeatwithmyhands +, writes (5 January 2011):
Guys are easy to understand, if he acts like he doesn't care about you, he really doesn't care about you. There is no mystery for guys, and it's very rare a guy would try to think up random things just to test you. Now he might exaggerate on some things, but probably did cheat on you and it's not a test either. However, usually when I go to pick up one of my ex gfs and bring them to my house I usually try to get some sex out of it. Maybe he's disappointed that you didn't blow him or something, so he fell asleep.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): if he was serious about making up with you he would not have behaved like a jerk,he is now punishing you for expressing your feelings which is very childish he needs to man up and be honest not go into hiding
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reader, lil212  +, writes (4 January 2011):
Sorry can I just ask Why the hell do you wanna be with this guy?? He cheated on you, you break up all the time, he doesn't want to talk when you go over ... he has no repect and sounds too immature for a relationship! You don't deserve to be treated like that, but because you keep going back he thinks he can keep on treating you like this. I know you like him but the more he treats you like this the more it will change you into a needy paranoid person which you probably aren't. Cut your losses get out and tell him where to go! Probably be a wake up call for him!! And find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve. Trust me if this goes on it won't change and it will make you miserable x
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