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writes:I can't figure this guy out and I don't know why I'm even bothering to do so. Normally I'm not this patient, if a guy shows signs of disinterest, then I move on. Which is fine, not everyone is going to fall in love with me. But with this guy, he asks me out, he says he wants to take me to this restaurant he loves, I agree to it. But that's as far as it gets. If we make definite plans, he'll cancel. Then a few days later, ask me out again. It's a horrible cycle to be in. And I don't understand what the point of it is. THis has been going on for about 2 months. This whole asking, canceling, doing nothing cycle. And I know he's not doing anything else and i'm 99% sure he's not seeing anyone else. He seems like such a nice guy. What do you think his issues are?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): "we make definite plans, he'll cancel"
This is mistreatment of you.
Don't put up with it. It is that simple. He's got something else that is more important, and frankly there shouldn't be anything more important.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 January 2011):
What are the reasons he keeps cancelling?
This is been going on for two months and you have to draw a line under it at some point or the same will continue to happen.
Next time he asks you, agree to it, but let it be known it's his last chance and see what happens.
If he cancels again, then it's time to move on.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Maybe he has a drinking problem? Maybe he isn't emotionally ready to date again? Maybe he's agoraphobic?
"Nice talking to you, Bradley, but I'm really not interested in a date any longer. You have proven to be unreliable and I'm just not up for that kind of drama. Take care!"
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