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Archived questions from: December, 2013 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 3995 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has nothing to do with me comparing ... (439 words)

I am ready to end this relationship! I'm tired of being alone!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am sitting here in tears as I type this.... my so called 'partner' has given me no time at all this Christmas and the final blow...he has just told me he is apparently going round to his mums tonight instead of spending it with me the way he usually does! Christmas day he ... (213 words)

I'm afraid I'll lose my b/f of 4 years if he finds out I cheated on him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3991 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been in a relationship with a guy for 4yrs and I'm afraid that I will lose him if he ever finds that i have slept with another guy who have know for about 3days.what can I do to prevent this from happening... (44 words)

Does he have a crush on me too?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4007 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - This guy has been initiating conversation with me over IM the last few days. He starts the conversation saying things such as 'Merry Christmas missy', 'Forgot to say, I'm glad you enjoyed the movie, you should also watch _. --- [name of another movie] It's amazing.'' and 'I ... (237 words)

I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really give myself clitoral orgasm.... (232 words)

Has he lost all interest in me, and if so, can I fix this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I can't get this off my mind, and I'm wondering if someone could possibly understand what's going on, because I sure don't! For a few weeks I knew my crush liked me back because he told me and also reminded me about it. He wanted to ask me out, but at the time we talked a... (426 words)

I feel so guilty about how I act, but how to communicate this to my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I always feel like i am being used for sex. I know rationally this isn't true, but I can't help feeling that way and it ruins all of my relationships. I was in an extremely manipulative relationship from 15-20 in which I was definitely used for sex. He would have sex, I woul... (497 words)

He doesn't mention me on facebook so I don't feel special to him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I don't know if I'm being paranoid or what. But i have been dating my boyfriend for a year. We both have a Facebook and there's something really bothering me. He doesn't mention me or anything about me on there. It bothers me because all the other girls he's dated he's men... (346 words)

Was she trying to make me jealous?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4007 days ago

31 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey, So my problem is this, at a flat party a year ago I drunkenly made out with a girl I work with. Afterwards I told her I liked her however she had just ended a relationship and said she didn't feel ready for another one yet. So a year has passed and we fell out for a w... (206 words)

I want to find a special girl but I am too shy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

31 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, bit of a long question here. So I am a 22 year old male who has never dated or even kissed a girl. I hadn't really thought about it until recently. Seeing quite a few of my friends getting into relationships be it through Facebook statuses or hearing about it has ... (272 words)

I love him but I can't do this for much longer!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been married to my husband for almost two years now. Our marriage started out great. We both worked, so all our time off was spent with each other. After I found out I was pregnant, I quit my job and we moved someplace more affordable. He got a better job, but was always ... (401 words)

I finished the job, now can I ask her out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

31 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Not so much a problem, more a dilemma. I am a single self employed tradesman of 25 with not to much confidence/luck in the lady department. I have recently been doing a bit of work for a lovelly girl who seems about the same age and from what i gather she is also single, but ... (184 words)

I need to move on, how should I tell him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been with my boyfriend for 4yrs, yet, he hasn't talked to me about marrige. He knows that I would like to get married and have kIds but I'm 28 he's 29, and I feel like I'm getting to that point where I need to move on. How should I bring up the conversation? I... (73 words)

Now that she appears to have moved on I miss her in my life.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

31 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Can someone help me understand this. I broke up with this girl about 7 months ago and I wont go into what happened and why I ended it. But it wasn't a nice break up, I ended it in a terrible way, unintentionally of course but as a result I was a jerk and ended up hurting... (421 words)

How can I cope with the pressure to marry?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - How can I become immune to the social pressure from family and friends to get married and 'settle down' already? I'm in my twenties, in a happy longterm relationship and still studying. We have a three year plan regarding starting a family. I have reflected deeply and I kno... (167 words)

I got with this boy, now he is acting like it never happened!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - on friday i got with this boy and we have been friends for 4 years but lately we drifted apart! when everything was happening i kept saying 'that we dont do this' and h was like this should have happened ages ago. We were both drunk me more than him. Then the next day he was ... (123 words)

Cheater Cheater!!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3993 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ... (35 words)

He says I wont have to wait long for him to pop the question!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4007 days ago

31 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend told me that he was thinking of asking me to marry him a couple of weeks ago. It would have been an impulsive ask. We were in a hotel for a couple of days and the weather was terrible so we spent the day in bed eating pizza and vegging out. We had been at a gig the ... (317 words)

Was he serious or was it the booze talking?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello agony aunts and uncles, Ok so I was out the other night with a friends and her boyfriend in the same bar as this guy we went to school with years ago. We never chatted in school but knew of each other. Anyways he was really drunk and it took him 20 minutes to put on his j... (182 words)

Younger guys are attracted to me, but I would like to date an older guy!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Just a simple question.... I hope :) I seem to attract all of the younger guys. It must be me. :/ Im only 23 and I just need an older, more mature man and I wanna know guys of age 25+ what do you find attractive in a woman? I can be childish but I'm also really mature and have... (72 words)

Should I give up now or wait and hope?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi everyone, I'm hoping someone can give me some guidance with a problem I have. I have been seeing my partner for a year now and I'd say it's a beautiful relationship. We get along fine and don't have any problems. We have little rows now and then but only very minor. F... (271 words)

I have a neon sign above my head saying "AVOID HER"

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4008 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - hello, need to ask a question, appreciate answers. I don't think people like me much,or are drawn to me, when I meet them, ie in a group, one to one, or in any social situation. Im a quieter person, yet 9/10 times I'm the one saying "hi" when I see people, or making sma... (524 words)

While he is planning our future, I am just not feeling 'it'!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) age 36-40 - Hey all, just hoping for some advice. I've been meeting a guy for about 6 weeks. At first, we met up and I didn't feel it but we agreed to be friends. However, I knew he kind of would have liked more, but he said he was happy as friends was better than nothing. One night, he ... (276 words)

How can I be myself when I have no confidence?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4005 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a 36 year old man. I Have no confidence when it comes to chatting to ladies. People always tell me to just be myself but that seems to me like i am not good enough. Any advice would be very appreciated. ... (43 words)

Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4008 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic? I believe this is what puts people off going, the only question they should ask is how long since you last had unprotected sex. I also believe they should only question you if they find someth... (76 words)

Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!

This question has 31 answers - newest was posted 4001 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her so how do I change this?... (56 words)

How to deal with previous sexual partners?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey guys, I'm really stuck, I may be young but I am sure of this relationship I am in, there's literally one issue. The girl has had 6 sexual partners before me, and whilst there's worse things and worse numbers, I really really can't get over that, how do I manage my... (67 words)

Why do men think that lasting forever is better?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3997 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a question mainly for the men out there. Why do you think that lasting hours while having sex is what women want? I've noticed this with all 5 men I've been with - they seem to think that lasting for ages makes them some sort of love God or stallion and they will try to ... (184 words)

Should I encourage our kids to reach out to my ex's side of the family during this crisis?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4008 days ago

30 December 2013 (?) age - My ex and I have been separated for 3 and half years, there have been many women and of course lots of hard drama. This last woman has been quite a challenging event with her many harrassing messaging, fake accounts to contact. Its been quite horrible for me and our grown up ... (197 words)

I have never climaxed during intercourse and it might ruin this relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I haven't used Dear Cupid for a while - I guess I only come here when I need advice the most; when I've thought so hard about relationship issues but can't seem to come to any decision or conclusion. I need help; I just need some truthful answers. So here it is: I've been da... (383 words)

A stupid throw away comment may have ruined my marriage

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4008 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm 42 and my wife is 30. We've been together 5 yrs and married the last 2. We knew when we got together that due to the age gap, we'd have to compromise on expectations around the timing of kids. I didn't want to be a really old dad, and she wanted her 20s to herself. Well, ... (371 words)

I have strong feelings for a colleague who is straight! Where do I go from here?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F) age 30-35 - I'm a girl who likes girls. I work in a conservative environment, but I have very strong feelings for a female colleague who is very straight and it's been more than half a year already. I've tried to give up as there's not much I can do, but every time I can't abandon my ... (104 words)

Performance anxiety help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been with my girlfriend for sometime and I do love her, but now that we've gotten to the point in our relationship where we make love, I've gotten performance anxiety. I wasn't able to get it up 100% and I figured the condom was too tight on me, which it was, so we tried ... (102 words)

Is this marriage worth saving?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4008 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I was dating this man and I should say I really had a bad time with him. He used to call me names, too busy for me, wanted me to plead for sex with him, would never say he wants to see me, and NEVA visited me if I DID NOT PICK HIM UP AND DRIVE HIM BACK ( I was driving and he ... (475 words)

Is my ex a player?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - three weeks ago I moved out of my partner's home after being together for 3 years with my son. My reasons being that our relationship had become physically abusive and cold where i felt i couldn't trust myself any longer to be sane around him as we have been mirroring each ... (170 words)

Boyfriend spends no time with me!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there iv bin seeing this boy for bout 3wks know and he has said we are girlfriend n boyfriend but every time I ask him to spend time with me he says yes then when it come to it he doesn't answer any off my phone calls or text! He said he needs time and space to get use to ... (150 words)

I think my marriage is ending and I don't know how to stop it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I suppose I'm really asking for people opinions here..... I have been married to my husband for 13 years and married for 3 of them. There is a 13 year age gap between us, I am 30 he is 43. Our sex life has always been ok, but over the past year it has virtually disapp... (245 words)

Is my husband gay or just trying things out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4006 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I have been married 20 years. We got married young. He has never seemed to have as high sex drive as me and initially I just accepted it as that. Over the years I discovered that he had interactions with others....not sure how far it went as he doesn't like to ... (452 words)

How do I convince my girlfriend to have an abortion?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello All, Need your help urgently on a matter. I am 28 and my gf is 31 and we have a relationship of 3 years that is not approved by either her family or mine as we have different religions. All through 2013 we have been having problems and my gf broke up with me in Se... (232 words)

I hurt my ex badly. Could he be trying to hurt me back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4006 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in a serious emotional roller coaster dilemma. I am currently in Switzerland with my ex and battling emotional issues. Well we met 15yrs ago. He was nothing but nice to me. Although I took advantage of him and didn't really care because not only was he the oldest guy 12yr... (433 words)

My husband's sexual fetish frightens me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Recently me and my husband had a romantic night in together, the night went well, it was on the day after Boxing Day. We had a lovely dinner and a romantic day in; the dinner was candlelit and my husband cooked it, not me! We were discussing each other's likes and fetish... (292 words)

How do I find balance in our relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been with my partner now 10 months. He is great with my son who Is 5 yrs old and we live together now.we seem to get into arguments because of me I admit that.i have a very hard time letting go over some past things and I no that I shouldnt be like this but from my ... (350 words)

More time apart than we've been together

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been going out with this girl for two weeks. We get along great and we really enjoy being with each other. I've been sleeping in her department the past few days but we haven't had sex yet because she "didn't feel completely sure yet", in her own words. But timing cou... (215 words)

What his response to my TEXT mean (met guy in a bar and he asked me to contact him)?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4007 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Dear Cupid advisors, I am in my early 20s, finished college and am working as a Marketing Professional. So I met a guy in a bar (in Boston- we are both locals) and we really hit it off. We danced all night and talked all about our lives and Jobs etc. We had a lot in com... (442 words)

I want a baby but can't get my husband on board!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4004 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I've been married to a wonderful man for 2 years (hes 25)but I can't get him on board to have a baby. I have always wanted to have my first before 30 and im 29 in a month. When I ask he says he wants children but that hes not ready yet. When I point out that I wanted ... (255 words)

Is My Sex Life Ruined? Please I Need Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4008 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a 19 year old male, and i like watching porn, im worried that this is affecting me more at picking up girls, i don't just go porn surfing and watch every video i see, i just watch the porn stars who are my favorite, one in particular i have came in contact with via twitter ... (293 words)

Who should I choose?? my boyfriend or my mom

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4008 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hii guys, i am a freshman in college. My mom found out that I was dating my friend for 4 months already. She got super pissed, and and she forced me to break up with him. She also forced me to promise her to never date him or be with him ever again. She forced me to pinky ... (338 words)

Does he deserve somebody who will love him as he is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4009 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello everyone, I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice on my situation. I have been with my partner for about a year and a half. It has been amazing. He is the most genuine caring person and i love him to bits. My problem is, Im not sexually attracted ... (580 words)

I feel my privacy is being invaded!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4009 days ago

30 December 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been having an issue lately concerning those around me and my private life. For starters many of my friends this year have gotten married, are in committed relationships, and have kids. Since this has come to the attention of my mother and sister they been pressing the ... (193 words)

He feels our relationship is not healthy.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4009 days ago

30 December 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid, I am 28 years old and my boyfriend is 27. We have been together for almost a year now. Everything was great and he always treats me like a queen. But recently, we started to fight over stupid little things. Due to that, he has tried to break up with me several ... (365 words)