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writes: I'm a girl who likes girls. I work in a conservative environment, but I have very strong feelings for a female colleague who is very straight and it's been more than half a year already. I've tried to give up as there's not much I can do, but every time I can't abandon my feelings for her altogether. I think I like her too much to give up, and there's always a voice telling me to make a move despite the unfavourable circumstances. If you never try, you'll never know, right?Is it unwise for me to go on like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (31 December 2013):
 Turn this around.
What if a guy that worked with you REALLY liked you, and wanted to be with you even though he knew you were a lesbian?
What would you want him to do?
How would you want him to act?
Take your ques from what you'd want him to do in that hypothetical situation.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 December 2013):
 Don't do it.
several reasons.
1. dating co-workers is not a good idea
2. attempting to entice a straight person when you are gay feeds into the BIGGEST fears that anti-homosexuals have... that gays are trying to turn all the straights their way...
How would you feel if a straight guy from work hit on you in the attempts to "turn you"?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 December 2013):
 Very unwise.
First of all SHE is straight. She is not going to to experiment sexually with a CO-WORKER! How awkward would that be?
Second of all THIS is where you work, I know many people look for "love" at the work place but that is NOT really a good idea, more often then not, does it end up being a big mistake that ALL your colleagues will see/hear about.
You SHOULD be looking for women who are OPENLY gay, not try and "convert" a straight women, because it won't happen. She might be flattered for a few then she will feel awkward around you and avoid you. If she isn't a decent person who know who she will tell.
Having a crush on someone is OK, but you REALLY don't NEED to tell them specially when you know the chances of them returning your feelings is slim to none.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2013): Don't go there! she is a work colleague and she is straight, telling her yr feelings may only lead to her feeling awkward and you losing the f/ship you have with her, if she is scared that you told her or even annoyed there is also a chance she may report you for sexual harassment in the workplace, you can loose yr job, it sounds extreme but you must think of the possible outcomes if she is not happy to hear it, even if she is flattered and is ok with it things will still be awkward..
There are lots of implications from this, please don't go there!
It will get etter, focus on yr work, maybe distance yrself a bit from her, don't be rude though or she will notice..
she isn't gay, yes it hurts but theres nothing you can do. Leave it , the feelings will go away eventually, Ive been where you are, with a friend, and I didn't say a word, the feelings did go away.
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