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writes:Hii guys, i am a freshman in college. My mom found out that I was dating my friend for 4 months already. She got super pissed, and and she forced me to break up with him. She also forced me to promise her to never date him or be with him ever again. She forced me to pinky promise, which I dont break pinky promises. However, she forced me to make this promise.:( I am still secretly with my boyfriend right now. We want to be with each other forever. We want to get marry and have a family together. He never lie to me, and he love me a lot. We are doing long distance relationship, and he still want to be with me. He said that he really want to be with me forever, and we made a love contract together. I don't know what I should do, I dont know if I should choose my mom or my boyfriend. My mom is a single mother, and she work really hard to take care of me. However, her reasons of not accepting my boyfriend is very unreasonable. She said that his family doesnt have money, but she doesn't know if that is true or not. She said that he is too skinny, and that he doesn't have a buff figure and that he have a similar background as me. I love him because of his personality, and i have known him for about 3 years already. I have a crush on him for 3 years. He understands about me more, and we have a stronger bond because of our similar background, interests, and beliefs. He is my first first crush and my first boyfriend. I really can't just break up with him because he really loves me and he never betray my trust. What should I do?? Should I please my mom and break up with him or to be with him?? I am really really happy with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2013): Stay with your mom. Shes the one who took care of you since your birth. She needs the best for you. Mothers had exprienced and alot of things about men. So maybe she thinks the hes the wrong guy for you. And you said "long distance" you never know what hes doing while hes miles away from you.. you never know if hes cheating on you right now. Good luck
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 December 2013):
 You are 22-25 and your mom is what about 40-45? and she "made you pinky swear"
I kind of wonder if the age is right...
you are LDR and dating for four months.. have you met in real life?
you had a crush on him for three years...
before I tell you to live your life for you.. I need more info...
have you met the bf in real life
how LDR are you (distance)
are you 22 or 25?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 December 2013):
You must live your own life. I think your mother is afraid that you are now growing up and moving on. Maybe she's worried about losing you. Whatever her reasons, you can't let her dictate to you or emotionally blackmail you this way.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (30 December 2013):
 Whose life are you living? .... Your's? ..... or your Mother's?
We have to TRY to respect our parents.... but, if - or, when - they get too outlandish... then we just have to ignore them and get on with our lives....
Good luck.... (and, study hard!)
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