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writes:Me and my boyfriend are in a loving relationship and have been together for 3 years. We had sex after 2 years as he said he would wait till I felt ready. Before then we had done oral and I had given him hand jobs. We have amazing sex but the problem is I can't 'cum'. When I masterbate I can make myself squirt and have the most amazing orgasms and when my boyfriend goes down on me and is fingering me at the same time I have a really intense orgasm however it's really different when we have sex.He usually screws me really hard as he prefers it like this and it makes me feel like I'm going to cum quicker and I'll get the feeling that I need to pee really bad and my whole body trembles and and I get goose bumps all over my body and then the feeling goes. I'm really aware that it feels like I need to wee even though I don't really need to as I make sure I go before I have sex. Is there something wrong with me? How can I cum for my boyfriend cuz he always says 'are you going to cum for me baby' and when I don't I feel terrible and like he feels like he isn't good enough. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Just from personal experience, I have to grind on my boyfriend to get off. Usually, if he's the only one in control, his rhythm just doesn't work for me. You might want to dabble around with that. Also, I can only do it when either he is on top, flat across (horizontally) or I am on top of him like that. I think it stimulates the clitoris. Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): You do know most women can't orgasm during penetration alone right? I can't remember the figure but it's something like 60% never have and never will. You're just a clitoral stimulation girl OP. If you want an orgasm while having sex then just stimulate your clitoris at the same time or have him do it.
As for the peeing feeling that's probably just irritation on your urinary tract from the rough sex. Look up a diagram of your bits and you'll see how that can happen. OP "screwing really hard" all the time can cause permanent damage you know that right? Permanent incontinence is a very real risk. You could get a fistula and there are whole host of other types of damage that can be done. Be careful, rough should only ever really be a novelty and never ignore pain or blood.
There are more ways to have sex than just pounding into the bed you know that right? Him going hard and fast isn't going to make you orgasm if it's not your thing. Try different positions and see if he can hit different spots, there may be some that work but don't feel bad if they don't, just use clit stim, and educate yourselves a little OP. Time to do some sex ed and research, time know the facts.
What I don't get is how he doesn't feel good enough, he makes you cum in other ways. Sex is nothing like porn OP, time to do some reading.
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