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age
41-50,
*ohnsgirl1982
writes:Hi, I really need some help. I have the most amazing lover ever in bed. I consider myself to be one of the luckiest ladies ever. This man's not only great to me in bed but emotionally as well. He is my soulmate for sure. However, I have a serious problem and I would appreciate any help you all can give to me. Our sex life is out of this world incredible except when I'm on top. This is one of his favorite positions for us to be in. The thing is I know he loves it, tells me I am so great etc. I just don't think I am all that. When I am on top I don't stay there long at all because I don't feel as good nor is it as intense and passionate as I do in any other positions. For one thing I cannot keep a rhythm to save my life. I don't feel as passionate and don't have near as many orgasms as normal. I must give you some feedback about us before you can answer me fully on this. For one I have the lowest self esteem on the planet, recently gained a lot of weight that I'm working to take back off now, and I haven't had many sexual partners. He has a lower self esteem but I have helped raise it for him since we have been together for almost three years now. He's 20 years older than I am, has had many more sexual partners than I, and in bed he is more worried about how to please me than about me pleasing him. We have the most intense passion,a strong unbreakable bond, and are deeply in love. I need to know how can I feel better about myself when I am on top? Why do I not like it that well but he loves it? Should I avoid being on top altogether? Should I try to be on top more and stay there longer to see if I can change my own mind about it? Is this normal for people especially women? Thank you for your help.
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Johnsgirl1982 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for answering this for me. Anything anyone can tell me no matter how big or small is truly appreciated. Please, if anyone else has an answer or something to add it doesn't matter how many answers are already here I want to hear yours too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): I actually know a lot of women who only get off on top. For the longest time, that's the only way I could get off. He probably likes you having all of the control. I suggest you try wearing a shirt for a while when on top. That helped me a lot... I used to always put a shirt on just to do that because I was just weird about my jiggle jatters being all over the place. I also like to lay flat across (horizontally)... it helps with stimulating your clitoris. The only other thing I can think of is to have him do something that turns you on while you're on top, if that's at all possible. Or maybe try having him sit up... then, you're still on top, but it's not like you're just sitting on him. Hope this helps!
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