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writes:I'm 18 years old boy and I've a really stupid problem, I guess. I have an older brother, who's married and his wife doesn't leave me alone. It all started few months ago, when she came to me and wanted to talk. Then she told me she likes me and started to pay her attention to me more and more. Every time I'm telling her "no". She's really pretty, but she's my brother's wife.I'm not the bad boy, that women usually fall for, I'm even too good, I guess. I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't go to parties. That's just not my thing. I've never had a girlfriend and I'm virgin. I think I'm too young for relationships. And I don't know how can I get rid of her. Some of you might think I'm an idiot, I mean, who wouldn't want to make out with a beautiful woman. But it's really bothering me. She's searching for possibilities to meet me, touching me, and many times she has tried to persuade me to have sex with her. I don't understand why does she need me? She's in her late twenties, while I'm just 18. She has a husband. Why me?So my question is - should I tell about this to my brother? And if yes, then how? They are married for about 3 years. I'm afraid he won't believe me. We have normal relationships, but not very good. I can't talk with him like with a friend. I told about this to my buddy of my age and he told me not to tell anything to anyone, because all women are liars. I'm afraid that in the end I would be the only one who's guilty.
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reader, john martin  +, writes (5 March 2016):
 No you can't do this unless you want to compromise the situation. If she can't accept your objection to this move then simply meet her demand once and she will cool off with the lust. IT'S A COMMON PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE GETTING INTO MARRIAGE AT TENDER AGE-HAVING NOT EXHAUSTED THEIR RELATIONSHIP FANTASIES! ALSO, ladies tend to look into the oppossite directions once they are over three years into marriage. It no matters whether they're in love with their spouses or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): She may be trying to sabotage her marriage and using you for leverage. She may be plotting on an upcoming fight to say that she is having an affair with you(if you had succumbed to her seductive entreaties) and thus nuking her marriage. If she has you in the bag it will be easy-peazy but unfortunately for you, you may lose your dear brother for ever after.
You have to tell your brother in a roundabout way that your sister-in-law is not respecting boundaries. Tell him that she is too chummy with you. Nothing lost if she withdraws because you "told" as that is what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): "Do I tell my brother that his wife wants to have sex with me?"No, tell his wife that her brother-in-law doesn't want to have sex with her."I told about this to my buddy of my age and he told me not to tell anything to anyone, because all women are liars."Shouldn't have told buddy, but not because all women are liars, just that one buddy probably is. If you weren't sure about telling your brother (legit concern) then you shouldn't have blabbed to anybody else, secret no longer in your control. Brother almost certain to find out now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Don't tell your brother. All it will do is ruin a marriage, and put stress on your relationship with him.
Try your best to maintain distance from your brother's wife. Do not contact her through phone, online, etc. And do not put yourself in situations where you are alone with her. If she is still being relentless, tell her that you will tell your brother if she does not stop.
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