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writes:Hi I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and I moved to the city 6 months ago when he got a new job. I still love him dearly but the problem is I'm lonely have no friends and feel severely depressed. I work from home and have little energy to even wake up in the morning. I seldom leave the house because there's no one for me to talk to I haven't spoke to another person in 2 months other than my boyfriend. I'm coming close to walking out and going home to my family . My boyfriend keeps pushing me to make more money but I feel so sad and unable to work at all. What should I do? Should I leave and go home?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Yes it is extremely unhealthy that the only person you've talked to in the last 2 months is your bf. Is this self-imposed, or does he actively prevent you making new friends?You need to start making new friends and other social connections. If you need to move back to your hometown then do so. If you can force yourself out of the house where you are now without having to move back, then do that. I know you just found out you're pregnant. But honestly, what you described sounds very unhealthy, pregnant or not. It's simply unhealthy to be so isolated and having your world revolve around your significant other. Being pregnant doesn't make it any less unhealthy. Lots of my friends when they were pregnant were still functional and living normal lives. You need to get back to that otherwise once your baby is born you will become even more shut-in because now with a new baby it will be harder to just go out and meet new people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): Time to go home for a visit OP, you've basically made this place a self imposed prison, of course you're going to go nuts living that way. You have no work colleagues, you have no friends there, you never leave that apartment the walls must closing in on you.
Look you need a break to evaluate things. Go home for a week or two and relax, socialize and recharge. If that doesn't immediately lift your spirits it's time to go see a doctor, but it should.
In that time OP if you want to make it work in your boyfriends new city it's time you put together a plan. Browsed online for social activities, gigs, book clubs, martial arts, evening classes in something like making desserts or even find ways of picking up some old hobbies to do there. friends won't just knock on your door OP, dun won't just fall out of the sky, you need to get active and build up a routine that has plenty of social fun in it. You can make it work but you have to drag yourself out of there and get out and enjoy life there.
If I were you I'd go home, recharge, get as much advice on how to make friends and meet people from your friends and family back home and go back with the decision you'll give it one last concerted effort to build a nice life there and if by xmas things haven't improved it's time to go home.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): I think I've found the reason I've been teary and depressed turns out I'm pregnant! I did a test today and it was positive !
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 first thing you should do is see a doctor and see if you have clinical depression and be treated for that.
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