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writes:So there is this woman at work who i like. We only see each other for short amounts of time since we are both very busy (usually on opposite sides of the building) I'm not sure if she likes girls or shes straight and playing around with me. When i first met her she would flirt with me a lot (like touch my back and arm, make suggestive jokes, soften her voice when she called me) when we walked past each other she would look at me then look down quickly and look back up. I'm pretty sure i caught her looking at my butt more then one time lol. It was cute, but I ended up distancing myself from her for a while because upon further observation i realized she flirts with pretty much EVERYONE at our job. Not going to lie, i was jealous. Around a month ago i started associating with her again. We will be talking about serious matters and if i smirk at her [i cant help it shes adorable when she's uptight] she will loosen up, start joking and get flirty. She even gave me a loooong AKWARD hug in front of a lot of people the other day (lol) One of my co workers noticed that if she's close by and sees someone "flirting" with me she will find an excuse to isolate me. I also get teased by two other co workers because they think she favors my company over others and will sometimes go out of her way to find me when she's not busy. But then other times she will just ignore me like I'm not even there! I feel as if she goes from one extreme to the other, its confusing. Does she like me? Or does she just like the attention she gets when we're flirting??
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMisstellall- lol a long answer for a long questionThank you both, but i seem to have left a very important fact out... She's a supervisor. Though she's not over my department. She's not allowed to hang out with people from work who arent on her "level". So inviting her somewhere could possibly get her in trouble.Is there anything else i could do? Or am i screwed?
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reader, MissTellAll  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 I suggest asking her to hang out, no strings attached, maybe go to a movie or something and seeing how she acts outside of the office. Possibly invite a few others so it doesn't seem so isolated and ask her to "come along with a group of people you know", very casual, very discreet. It is important to see how she behaves when the eyes of the office aren't on you.If you don't wantto be as direct, just say "we should hang out sometime" and ask for her phone number. Wait a little while and text her with some casual conversaton. If that goes well, then maybe see her outside of work. Baby steps, watch how she acts, see how it goes.It seems like she may be a pretty big flirt. However, she shows favortism toward you, so she probably does like you at least a little bit. She could not know how this is, she may not have been interested in women before this and is skeptical.Sorry if I'm babbling, bottom line: get to know her, it seems like it could work!Best of luck!
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