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writes:ok so I haven't had a full-on relationship for about almost 3 years now, all I have been doing is going out weekends having one night stands and having fwb. Now however I have 3 girls that I can really have a proper strong relationship with. Am I allowed to play the field here? I don't want to mess about anymore. Don't want to break hearts. I know this sounds selfish esp with other people being unable to get a bf/gf but that isn't my fault and I'm entitled to ask for help. Considering I don't want to hurt any of their feelings, am I allowed to date them all at the same time to see who is best for me? Obviously they do not know thisso yea thank you for advice in advance.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 I need clarification....
Are you saying you have three women you want to put into a dating rotation to figure out which ONE of them is the one you want to get serious with?
IF that's the case, well then that's FINE but you can't LIE to any of them... IF they ask if you are seeing others you must tell them. YOU also cannot IMPLY or mislead them into thinking they are special when clearly they are not... ONE of THREE is not special....
of course you are ALLOWED to DATE all three... but you must disclose that you are not dating JUST them.
of course if you only see them once every three weeks (because after all SATURDAY night is date night) they will get the idea and be posting here that "he only sees me every three weeks and he's very secretive about his life when he's not with me" and they will be told "he's a player and to not sleep with you....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 October 2012):
 "Obviously they do not know this"
If you want to get laid, go on some dates, then sure. If you want to start a serious relationship, then this is a terrible idea to sneak around. I know you aren't exclusive, but for these three women if they found out you were dating other women, secretly, they would probably decide you were not boyfriend material.
You should either date them one at a time, disclose the situation (instead of saying, I'm playing the field, say up front that this is casual for now), or choose someone and date just them.
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