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writes:What can I do to cover my own butt? My girlfriend of 2 years has anger issues. It all started a year ago at a friend's wedding in New York. my phone died and when I got back into our hometown she refused to pick me up from the airport. she was convinced that I was cheating on her because a friend had posted on my Facebook wall that she could not wait to see me. her reasoning was that she was worried because she could not get in contact with me (dead phone). she constantly calls me a loser, trash, idiot, and told me she wasnt suprised my father left me and my mom when I was three because he knew how I would turn out. She has thrown many things against walls, sprayed my eyes with lysol, hit me, and cant have an argument without screaming. The problem is that we have a son together. I hate that he has to see all this. Hes less than a year old but I know he knows whats happening. Im not completely innocent in all this as I know I can be a pain in the ass, but she takes it far
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): You are young. Open your eyes. Your girlfriend has major issues and does not know how to respect you. You need to leave her and forget her. You will not miss her. Dump her in a very public place if you need to tell her. Preferably at a police station.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 October 2012):
 Your gf is physically abusive, and you can't stay in a physically abusive relationship, period.
You are willing to explain away her anger issues, and I am sure there is , at least in her eyes , an explanation.
Problem is, an explanation is not the same as a justification.
She can't hit you. You can't stay and let her hit you. End of story. Kids or no kids.
When a relationship reaches this point, it's not a relationship anymore, it's over, it's gone.
You MIGHT want to try with sending her to anger management, and going together to couples counseling.
But, to be frank, I think it's too late even for that. You'd better check with a lawyer , make sure that your right as a father are enforced ( visitations , etc.. ) and just take the door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Oh dear, I've been here twice before and I can tell you, unless you can make your girlfriend see that she has a serious paranoia, anger problem that needs addressing, things will remain as they are for the foreseeable future, if not get even worse.
Its time you sit her down when she's in chill mode and attempt to have a LONG talk about this re-occurring problem, and see if you can get her to see the error of her ways and that she needs some help.
Don't hold your breath though, people like that are often in denial and find it easier to own none of the responsibility, and to throw it all on the other person. If this becomes the case, you need to walk away for your own, and your sons sake, its not fair on either of you.
It could go one of two ways if you leave, she could either calm down, or fly right off the rails.
CAUTION! If you DO split from her, you need to seek legal advice right away as to what rights you have to see your son under the circumstances. Express concerns about her behaviour, and for your sons welfare. You need to remember although you may get yourself out of the woods, your son will still be in potential danger with her, and especially if she meets a new guy and all this starts over again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): She has some serious anger issues. If there is ANY chance of making this work, she has got to get counseling, and you cannot let her do this anymore. It's not good for the child involved. I know it might hurt to leave her, but if you guys can't come to some sort of understanding, you're going to have to suck it up and ditch her. BEFORE there is another fight, you need to sit her down and have a serious talk with her. If she starts to act out of hand, simply get up and leave. If she starts fighting, call the police ASAP. It will be a HUGE wake-up call. Is this the only reason you guys fight, or is she just mean in general? You need to let her know that you will not put up with this kind of behavior and that the next time it happens, she will go to jail.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): are you going to keep staying in this so-called 'relationship'?she has hit you and sprayed lysol in your eyes - this is physical abuse and it will escalate. She could do far worseit's time to grow a backbone, take her to court for assault, fight for custody of your kid if you're worried about what he will turn out like being around her. the court may decide that the kid is better off with foster parents if both biological parents are so unstable - she's obviously unstable and you haven't done anything about it. if you're unable to raise your kid on your own then do the right thing and give him up for adoption to a loving and more stable family so he can grow up right and not be messed up psychologically.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 October 2012):
 Why did you post this "question"???? Did you think that somebody/anybody would tell you to try to keep things going with this woman who you describe???? You sure aren't oging to hear that from me. I say,.... get as far away from this woman as you can.... as quickly as you can.
Do you REALLY think that people who love each other act like you've described?????
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