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writes:I have a crush on this kinda shy younger girl I work with. She's very cool, shy, friendly and I happen to think she's beautiful.The problem is I'm 10 years older than her and I'm bald. We wear hats where we work so she probably doesn't know this, but can maybe tell as I have a skin head.I sometimes think she is flirting or trying to get my attention when were around one another. I can't stop thinking about her and my heart skips a beat whenever I see her. I'd have asked her out by now, but I'm insecure about the age difference and the fact she hasn't seen me without my work hat. I'm not self conscious about my baldness, but I'm worried it may put a younger girl off.So, can younger girls be honest if its a deal breaker or reassure me it isn't a big deal to a younger girl.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2017): Hi, female anonymous here,I love bald men! (I also love men in general, and men with hair too) but bald is sexy! Also I read the anonymous male post and I have to agree entirely:"I can tell you women who love bald men are generally wild and a hell of a lot more adventurous than women who like the generic pretty boy or full haired hunk."I think that is sooo true ;) There are women who don't like baldness because they are just sooo boringly conventional ...as a matter of fact I think bald men tend to be more wild and adventurous as well as the women who like them, in my experience. Same goes for age differences, many are open to them if they look beyond the boring conventions.OK just noticed this question was a long time ago, so hopefully you went ahead and asked that girl out years ago!
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (27 October 2012):
I'm this girl's age and I don't give a damn. Guys can look hot with hair and without. I've dated a variety of guys, some of which had full, thick heads of hair and others that were bald or getting there. Their lasting impression had nothing to do with the amount of insulation material on their heads ;-) I'm pretty shy when it comes to dating so it's not like I go out there and get a guy on a whim either.
But sure, there are probably gals that say they're turned off by it. My best friend was one of those. Right now I'd say she's a baldness convert, as her current boyfriend of 3 years is bald (completely, not one hair remains) and she loves the way he looks. I think that when it comes to dating it really doesn't matter, in the way general preferences don't. I may have a thing for blonde, green eyed guys, but my first huge crush was on someone with pitch black hair and ditto eyes. So there goes the type.
In short: don't worry and ask her out! Us gals tend to be perceptive so I think she already knows you're bald and doesn't care about it.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (25 October 2012):
Patrick Stewart (the bald Captian Picard from Star Trek the Next Generation) was voted sexiest man alive in 1992. Additionally, he has placed very high in other 'sexiest man' features for different publications.
You, sir, are in good company and should not let your lack of hair get you down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): I'm bald and have been for a good many years, it was never an issue for me. If I had a buck for every girl I've gotten with who was surprized she actually got with a bald men when to her it was deal breaker I'd have about 40 bucks haha.
OP women have preferences but nothing is ever set in stone, there are a hell of a lot of women who love bald men, a lot who don't actually care and the ones who do care can be taken anyway.
OP bald is to men what being fat is to women, something that doesn't mean what you think it does and is not even nearly as bad as people make out. You may not get some superficial weirdo who dreams about being sang to by some pretty boy like Justin Beiber as she's sucking him off but I can tell you women who love bald men are generally wild and a hell of a lot more adventurous than women who like the generic pretty boy or full haired hunk. Just my experience really OP because bald is supposed to be a taboo in terms of attraction so that kind of attitude generally applies to other things in bald lovers. Again not facts, just my experiences. In my promiscuous days I was not only bald, but very fat and am also quite short, but I have confidence oozing out of every orifice and am unphased by anything, don't like bald guys you say? Challenge accepted.
Nowadays I'm in a long term relationship with a girl who didn't really like bald guys, or so she thought, I got with her when she was 19 and the age difference is similar to your girl, she had the typical teenage thing of loving girly boys with girly hair etc and I was the complete opposite but I was more manly and alpha, more self-assured, intelligent, funny and not as much of a whiny sap as the teenage girly boys, she actually loves the idea of bald men more now because as she said she equates it with power, dominance, success and maturity and not the over-feminized, hyper sensitive guys who are more obsessed with their looks than most women. The point of my story OP is baldness is not a handicap but wondering whether it is, definitely is. Insecurity about it will do far more harm to your chances.
I started working out a few years back and now I'm built like tank, not huge and bulky but very lean and muscular, basically rocking that badass cage fighter look. It's a good look for a bald man OP, while I could never imagine life without my girlfriend I kind of wish I looked like this when I was a slut, I get far more looks and attention these days. Nothing says badass like a built bald bastard.
Don't worry about it, confidence is key, never apologise for who you are embrace it. The only thing you should worry about is shitting where you work, never a good idea. Things get oh so complicated and you can make working there with her intolerable. I never date colleagues.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): It depends on the girl. I am dating a guy thats 15 years older than me. I ususally dont go for older guys. He has grey in his beard, which I'm not a fan of but he's a wonderful man and I love him. Go for it and see what she says.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): When I was in my 20 s, yes, a bold guy would be a deal breaker for me, because At that age we kind of expect guys to have hair, and no hair seems like abnormality. Of course when I got older boldness is not that terribly unusual, but I still like guys with hair. Sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Everyone is different.
To me (19yrs), yes it is a deal breaker I suppose. But again, everyone is DIFFERENT. Some might love it.
Use your words and just ASK her. None of us can answer whether she is interested or whether she likes bald men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2012): Girls/women love baldheaded men but the age thing maybe a problem talk to her what have you got to lose
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