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writes:My girlfriend suddenly broke up with me (and started the process of moving out) this past Saturday. We had been dating for about 7 months. We had taken a wonderful trip the weekend before and had a nice week together prior to Sat. I started dating her a couple of weeks after she moved to my town, she got to know my friends and we were together almost constantly. I am extremely hurt and confused, she said "I need to have some time on my own and some space, I just have to do this." I know there are still feelings there, i told her i want to work it out and told her how we might begin to do that, she said "I'm just not there yet." I told her i would give her some time and she said she would call/text when she was ready. I'm just looking for some thoughts or insights as to what is going on, or how to deal with it. Thanks!
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reader, Orange8 +, writes (5 May 2012):
Orange8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNow she's apparently not showing up to work. im just gonna wait till she contacts me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 May 2012):
 change the locks.... it sends a message and if she's done you can move on faster...
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reader, Orange8 +, writes (4 May 2012):
Orange8 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the responses! It is just hard! The kicker is that she also works at the neighborhood bar that my friends and i all go to on a regular basis. I don't want to alter my routine and not see my friends, but i don't want to make her uncomfortable either. Also, when i came home last night she had gone in the house and removed a lot more of her stuff, it just hurts (she still has a key). I have been NC for 2 days and it is hard, i think about her constantly and i KNOW we can work it out. Just HURTS!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 May 2012):
I agree that moving in together so early in a relationship seems fast. And she’s new to town… so many changes for her in less than a year… sounds like she wants space…and time.
Give her a chance to miss you a bit and let her call the shots. I know that it’s hard to do (when I need to give my guy down time I write him letters that I never send. It gives me the time to be OCD about the relationship and feel closer to him but give him the space he needs.
If you don’t hear from her (it will kill you to wait but you must) after a FEW WEEKS (not days or hours) you can CALL her (not text) and say “just touching base” if she blows you off then assume it’s done…..
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reader, cheers  +, writes (4 May 2012):
 sorry to hear it.She seems bit confused. she has issues to settle that bothering her. The current situation already make her depress &resricted. Now she expects frm you enough time,space & freedom. she's not ready
Don't grief anymore.Go out,mimgle with your friends. Life still have to move on. All the best
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