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writes:After 18 years, he has told me I love you twice. He never kisses me before we roll over to sleep, I have to initiate a kiss. He never tells me that I look nice when I have gone out of my way to look nice. How can I tell him how Im hurting and how Im not sure I can spend the rest of my life like this.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Sounds like after 18 years he has become so used to you that he doesn't even think about saying he loves you and paying you compliments.
Perhaps he DOES love you, but doesn't realize you don't feel appreciated.
How is your life together? Do you get on well and enjoy being together most of the time? Does he pull his weight in terms of helping you with chores, etc.? What happens when you disagree about something? Is he willing to listen to you and then present his side of it in a nonjudgmental manner? Or are there a lot of arguments and strife?
Maybe the best way to start - to answer your question - is to let him know you'd like more attention from him and see how he responds. I wouldn't at the same time tell him you're not sure if you can stay with him for the rest of your life, however. You don't want to start off by seeming as if you're complaining.........
Good luck!
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