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writes:My husband passed away 4 yrs. ago. I started to date a man 2 yrs. ago and we have enjoyed each other alot. We travel and go out alot. My question is he told me he wants to marry me and in that excitement we told my son and daughter and my sister and my mother that we were going to get married in the near future.Also told his best friend and his wife. The problem is that he has not told his 2 daughters yet... and Im getting nervous.He's had time to tell each of them but hasnt. Im not asking him anything about it but I can tell he chickenend out for some reason. P.S. their mom is not who he was married to last....We are not spring chickens...Im 60 he is 58.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2012): thank you for the advise....his girls like me alot....
I think whats stumbling him is that his last wife was cheating on him and he wants to be sure this time that I am not going to do the same... maybe.
Just last night he was joking around saying look if youre gonna be my wife you need to learn how to make a salad the way I like it...then laughed and tickled me.So he is looking at me under those terms.....
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reader, cheers  +, writes (4 May 2012):
 Hi.Pls give him time. but you can always hint him the issue.
Is there anything that bothering him? Spend nore time and talk with him. Express that you're Happy and really looking forward to Engagement Day.
First,we need to let everyone know about it.I already inform my family.How about you? Is your daughters already know? What's your plans? do u need my help to break the NEWS?
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (4 May 2012):
 Do his daughters get along with you?...Like you, seem pleasant and accepting of your relatoionship? If so I can think of no reason he's holding back. You may need to simply ask him, "So how did the girls take the news?"...and see where that conversation leads. If his daughters don't seem that warm and fuzzy toward you, then there's your answer. If they haven't yet accepted you he's probably not looking forward to telling them the Big News. In fact he may be waiting until AFTER the wedding to tell them at all. That way they can't talk him out of it. They can't put doubt in his mind or pressure him into not going through with the wedding. If you know they are difficult then don't push the issue. As far as I'm concerned your plans to marry do not need their blessing or approval and when it's done, it's done and they'll learn to accept it eventually. For now carry on like you haven't noticed that he's keeping his kids in the dark. Just continue to plan the wedding and move forward with your life. You're both adults and should be able to do what you want. Good luck.
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