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writes:At this point of my life, I'm dealing with a problem I could've never thought I would be dealing with.I was always, but ALWAYS attracted to older men. Not significantly older, we're talking about up to 5 years older. And that worked. But as of recently, I found myself in love with a 4 years younger man. I feel like a predator! I'm studying at university and he's still in high school. With his 18 years, he's smarter and more mature than 99% of the men I've ever met. He's absolutely brilliant and he makes me feel, well, special. Let alone the fact that I feel like a cougar and that we live in two different cities ( though in a year, he'll move to my city to study), I don't think he's really attracted to me and that makes me feel sad. Instead of partying and talking all I can from university life, I find myself almost crying over a boy... I don't know if I should try to forget him or wait a few months until he moves to the city I live in?PS. I feel like I have to mention this - unfortunately I look older than him and feel like that could only cause problems with the two of us.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 If the only reason to forget him is his age then I say don’t forget him… but don’t sit around and wait for him either…
I look 52… easily. 48 at the YOUNGEST. My 38 yr old fiancé looks about 25, 30 at the oldest….. didn’t stop me… age is a number… nothing more once you are past 18
that being said.. I would let him know how you feel but not hold your breath and NOT wait for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I'm around him, I feel special. We're not boyfriend/girlfriend, we're just friends, kind of close friends. The truth is - we don't get to spend much time together. If we spent more time together, then we'd become very close. And we don't spend much time together, due to the distance between us.
So, let me rephrase myself - should I wait for our 'time' together, because I feel like we'll be good, or should I forget about him, mostly because he's that younger?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 You are completely contradicting yourself here - you say he makes you feel special, but because he is not attracted to you, you feel sad! Which one is it? Sad or special? You cant feel both!
I need more information here - how does he feel about you? Has he told you he loves you? Are you together officially as boyfriend/girlfriend? Has he expressed a desire to be with you when he moves to your city? How does he feel about the age difference? How did you meet him? How long have you been with him? Or how long has it been since you met him?
More information will be very helpful because at the moment my answer would be leave it - it sounds very one-sided (i.e. you love him but he's not attracted to you) so there is no point in waiting around for a guy that doesnt want to be with you.
But if that is wrong, and he actually has said he loves you and the relationship is official, then my advice would change.
More information please!
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