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writes:Sorry in advance- this is a really random problem... I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 2 months now and from very early on he said 'I love you'. The thing is, I see 'I love you' as something which is quite serious and because of that, and also because I was quite badly hurt by my last relationship I haven't said it yet. In fact I'm really hesitant to say it. I explained this to him and he was fine with it, but sometimes I wonder whether it really is- I mean, it must be harsh to say it and not have the other person say it back right? The last thing I want to do is to hurt him, but I just can't bring myself ot say it outright yet... About how long did it take you guys to say it? I know some people who said it straigt away and others who took months... What do you guys think? I'd like to hear your opinions on it, thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies! I feel more relaxed about it now. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost a year, we spent 5 months dating slowly, then about 6 months in a relationship and I still haven't said it.
It's different for everyone. Some people fall in love quickly, I take it quite seriously, so I want him to see me stressed/upset as well as having fun and being happy. Then I will feel confident we are a secure relationship.
He said it to me first 4 months ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): My bf said it straight away but I asked him not to say it because to me it is very serious and carries obligations. He hasn't said it since and I have not said it either and its now been 7 years. There is a lot of passion and romance and affection between us but I just cant say it because our life paths are diverging we always agreed we would have to break up someday so I am afraid that if I say it that means I am trying to tie him down or he will expect me to tie myself down and be hurt if I don't. So many times we resort to non verbal expression of our deep longing for each other. We have held each other for hours with tears in our eyes but we will not say it. The longer its been the harder it is to say it.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Well it depends on you.
Say it when you mean it.
Thats what I do.
I never say to my boyfriend *i love you* all the time.
Just on times that i really mean it.
If you love him let him know, dont waste a moment :)
If he loves you he'll understand why you havent said it yet.
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