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writes:I just found out today that before I was with my boyfriend, he had sex with other girls, got them pregnant, told them he would marry them If he had too then left them. I'm so confused this is the first guy that I have really seen having a long relationship with, But now i'm kinda scared bc he has told me so many times how he wants to marry me, Even wrote the sweetest thing on my facebook wall. I don't want too lose him, and I know I sound so nieve but It took so much for me to go out with him and I'm so very careful with guys. I just don't know what to do or how too talk to him bout this. Help me please!
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (5 December 2012):
Well you are already suspicious of him, thats why you asked for our opinion and yes we all know your instinct is right. He is certainly not to be trusted and you have to grow up and discover your facebook wall has nothing to do with real life. He will harass you until he has sex with you and if you arent ready you will end up pregnant as well. I dont think there is much to talk about with him. Time to find someone much better.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Oh he even wrote sweet things on your Facebook page, how impressive. That's probably what he did with the other girls, before having unprotected sex with them, getting them pregnant, promising them to stick around then reneging on his promise and vanishing in thin air.
I think you know what you should do - verify these rumours that reached you and make sure they are facts and not just rumours, and if you found them true, dump this promiscuous smooth operator before he ruins your life. The only problem is that , I think, you don't want to do it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Whatever you do, do not have sex with him….
Men (and boys) will say things that they don’t really mean. Especially if they think it will get them sex. (girls will too). FOLKS in general try to manipulate others to do what they want/need.
He’s gotten GIRLS (multiple) pregnant. How do you know this… from what he’s said or from facts you can verify?
He’s a teen, he doesn’t know what he wants… he says he wants to marry you because it sounds good and it probably makes most girls relax enough to do sexual things… “he loves me, he wants to marry me, he said so”
Writing crap on your facebook wall is just that… writing crap on your facebook wall. It’s just one giant bathroom wall the internet… “for a good time call xxx-xxxx”
You are naïve honey, it's part and parcel of being a teenager... we only want to see the good in folks.
Go out, have fun… neck a bit do NOT let him be sexual with you. For all you know he has STDs.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (5 December 2012):
Wow. That guy is a serial liar.
Your instinct about him - fear that he will disappoint you - is totally correct, so you're not naive at all.
I can understand that this truth hurts so much that you wish there would be some sort of explanation that he was a bad guy earlier, but that he has changed for you.
Obviously he hasn't because he just came up with the same marriage bullshit again. If he had changed he'd have told you that marriage is not on his to do list and that he's more after fun. And, some people will say ANYTHING to get you into bed. Sad but true. It doesn't mean anything to them.
Besides, did you take care of protection?
Don't worry too much about how to talk to him. You have to care for yourself and you have the right to end any relationship that you don't feel comfortable with. Even if it hurts him for a moment. I am sure he will get over it, as he has gotten over his exes as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2012): Unfortunately sometimes the things that seem the most genuine and worthy, turn out to be the biggest mistakes. The proof of what he's truly like has been presented to you, and now you know he's not what you thought, and in fact has been sweet talking you too just for the same reason he did them. Do you really want to get into the same mess as the girls before you?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 December 2012):
 He says he wants to marry you so HE CAN GET INTO YOUR PANTIES!!
It's not that he really love you.
Worst case scenario.. He will get YOU pregnant and dump you too and because he has to pay child support to other children you won't get much financial help and I BET YOU he will not help you raise a child.
He sounds like an immature guy WHO shouldn't have sex because he is NOT ready to deal with the consequences.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (4 December 2012):
 'Even wrote sweet things on my Facebook wall" - this means nothing in the real world.
Get as far away from this guy as possible. He has cold bloodedly tried to ruin other girls lives for his own sexual pleasure. He has no moral code and lacks ethical thinking. He know what girls your age want, the fairytale. To be told that they're loved and have it expressed to everyone in public (hence Facebook). This guy is a master manipulator of young girls.
Please for your own sake leave this guy and warn other girls against him! If you confront him, he will have excuses and say everything he can to break you down, shatter your self confidence so you'll staywith him. Prepare yourself, be strong, know that you're better than him, explain that you won't be talking to him anymore and dont respond to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2012): Leave him! He's a player and next thing you know you might end up preganant and find him writing things on another girl's facebook page. If you haven't slept with him already, stay far away from this guy!
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