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*maya153
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 months, after a very shaky beginning of being on/off for about 6 months before that. I've never felt this way about anyone before, but I've also never felt so bad about myself since I started liking him. It's as if everything he does has an affect on me. He doesn't make me feel good about myself. Every time he compliments me he'll just turn around and do something to cancel it out, like the other day he joked about me having "such big boobs" when he knows well that I don't, and it upset me. Sometimes he doesn't contact me for days, even a week. Right now I haven't heard from him in four days, but I know he was on Facebook because he had the time to like a page called "Worlds Sexiest Women". It just makes me feel so bad about myself because I feel like he only did it to p*ss me off. I just feel like I'll never be good enough for him, and it's hurting me so much inside knowing that. I don't know if I'd be better off without him, because I just feel so sh*tty all the time, I only think it'll make me feel worse. Please help me, I think I might even be depressed over the whole thing :(
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reader, Zaaleena  +, writes (5 December 2012):
When you have never experienced feelings like that before - you will cling to the memory of them whilst ignoring how bad you are feeling.
Also I know that sometimes you know that you deserve better than this person but can't actually find the strength to leave them for whatever reason.
All I can say is feeling shitty all the time is the biggest indicator you need that this person is not a positive influence in your life and you need to take him out of it.
All the best to him and liking photos on FB but honey you deserve better so move you should move his butt out the way. Don't let pages like that make you feel bad - yeah those women are physically beautiful but so are you in many, many ways. If he can't see it - his problem.
You are strong even if you think you're not and you can make yourself feel better - even if it takes time.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Is he deliberately putting you down or is he just being thoughtless? Teenage boys are not known for being the most intelligent of beings. I would have a talk with him and tell him that his behavior is upsetting and hurting you. If he doesn't make a sincere effort to improve then yes, get rid of him. Relationships should make us happy. If they don't then what's the point?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): i agree with honey pie, you know exactly how this is gonna go, stop doing this to your self, by allowing him to treat you that way, what's the point of being in a relationship with some one who makes you feel shitty. You probably not sure how or where to take the next step, but ask yourself if this is what you want or do you want to be happy, clearly you are not.This type of thing eats you from inside out till you lose yourself, once you meet someone who treats you right you will wonder what the hell were you thinking, so its only been a short while, dont wait for it to get worse or more complicated, you are young dont imprison yourself for some stupid guy, but however once u break off the relationship dont go rushing into another, it will be different to adjust but just stay focus, do some clean fun things to take your mind off it. Take care lovey
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 December 2012):
 I think you DO know what to do, you are just not ready or willing to do it.
I'm just wondering if you think you can't do better then him or that you somehow deserve this treatment, if no is the answer to both - then WHY haven't you dumped him already?
A guy who likes to put you down constantly, has all the control because it makes YOU second guess yourself over and over.
This is not healthy at all.
And FYI - YOU do deserve better.
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