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*gnored87
writes:Me and my ex were together for 6yrs and have 2kids. Im 25 he is 27 our relationship went boring and very settled and he left me last year for a 22yr old they only lasted a few months and he went off with many women but I have slept with him throughout the last 9months. He said he wants had a month a part now. had a had several conversation pluss me begging its been a year now and I love him and have stayed faithfull to him even through the break up. He has however got a new girlfriend in September and is confused about what he wants if he loves her or me then he decided that he does want to come home but is happy. He is so cut up now saying he made a mistake but can't leave her cuz she has done nothin wrong. We agreed to start from the beginning texting getting to know eachother again have fun with it. After doing this for a month we slept together and he ignored me all day then sent a message saying he dont regret it but feels bad and were back to distance again. I want my family together again what am I suppose to do this new 22yr old is no good
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reader, ignored87 +, writes (7 December 2012):
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (4 December 2012):
Never going to happen. Sorry but face facts! You’re sleeping with some-one who’s with some-one else. That means he’s still cheating and you’re condoning it by allowing him in to your bed. If he’s still prepared to cheat what on earth makes you think he won’t up and leave you again when he gets bored? He comes back to you because he knows how much you still love him and he takes advantage of your vulnerability. He gets what he wants, but he doesn’t love you back. This might be painful to read but in reality he’s never going to be the loving, faithful boyfriend with whom you can raise your kids and grow old together. You need to stop seeing this guy, texting him and sleeping with him in order to take an honest look and see him for what he really is because right now you’re kidding yourself. You don’t need to speak to him other than about access to your children, so keep it civil but other than having contact with him regarding them, make a clean break and accept that there’s no future between you. If you don’t, you will spend a long time being hurt, betrayed and disappointed.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 December 2012):
 Yep I agree with oldbag
make sure he's paying for the kids and has his regular visitation with them but other than that cut him off from you and your home.
IN fact, if he sees the kids have a family member or friend make the transfer at a neutral place. NO Contact.
BTW "but can't leave her cuz she has done nothin wrong. " is a BS excuse. "Hey Ms 22 yr old , it's not working out I wish you well but we have to end our relationship I'm going back to be with my babies momma"
would work really well if he was a MAN..not a liar and a cheat. m (he lies to her and cheats on her with you)
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reader, oldbag +, writes (4 December 2012):
 Hi
I think the only way you have the remotest chance of getting him back is to cut contact,stop having sex with him, let him wonder what your doing and let him miss you.
At the moment he has it all his own way, whoever he is with or however he treats you,he knows your there,he knows you will have sex. Its like your his reserve.
Make arrangements for him to have access to his children,make damn sure he pays child support too.Treat him as your Ex.The only thing you need to talk about are your children and money.So see a lawyer asap,let Ex see the reality of the situation.
If he's going to come back he needs to change so let him see your no doormat.
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