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writes:I live with a friend of mine who I have know for about 15 years, we met at school and have always been good friends. We hung out in the same group and when we were at college became closer. When I broke up with my ex I needed help with the rent and he moved into to help. Things were going fine but then we went out last weekend and ended up in bed with each other. We werent drunk thats the mad part! We said it was a one off but I keep thinking about it. It was amazing, we slept together again the next morning. I had a little crush on him at school and I think. he wants more too. He keeps sending me flirty texts and kissed me goodnight tonight, a proper kiss not a friendly one. Can FWB relationships work and become something else later on? Do they mess friendships up to the point there is no friendship? Im not sure if a proper relationship right now would work and as we have already slept together wouldnt make sense to say no sex yet would it?
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (4 December 2012):
If a guy wanted you as a gf, then why would he settle for just FWB when he could have the full monty?
Moral of the story - if you're a FWB, thats likely the highest relationship you will ever rise to with this person.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 December 2012):
 I would go for a full blown relationship... why bother with FWB if you both care?
Even with FWB if you care you take a risk.
Life is about risks.
It's really not like the movies in most cases FWB does not work. SOMEONE gets hurt... usually the one who cares more which is usually the woman.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (4 December 2012):
 p.s. I didn't mean no sex forever, if you two both want to try at a relationship. Just don't let it be based only around sex if you want more than that. Just because you've already has sex it doesn't make a 'proper' relationship impossible!
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (4 December 2012):
It would make sense to say no to sex again, whatever happens.
If you'd like a relationship then tell him that's how you feel and see what he says. If he feels the same way, tell him things moved too fast sexually and you would like to slow the pace a little. Go on dates together, don't just jump in the sack because you live together and it's convenient. It's not too late to rewind a little.
If he doesn't want a relationship, say no to sex on the grounds that it will complicate the situation. I say this because I don't believe that FWB relationships work. You live with him, imagine if he brought other 'friends' home!
If you like him and he likes you. I say give it a shot as a proper couple. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2012): If it ever could become anything more then right now is probably when you're gonna find out.
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