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writes:My best friend is a guy, we known each other for 6 years and got each other through so many hard times and good times of course. About 6 months in to known each other we got drunk and had sex. In the mornin i told him i didnt want it to happen again and it just didnt feel right ( der was no spark). He said he wud av liked it to be more but accepted my decision, shortly after we both got involved with other people and our one night stand was forgotten. We grew very close and now he is lik my family more den ne thing. But for thé last year he had become way more flirty with me again. He bein single for a while n i no he's lonely. Iv tried talkin to him tellin him it makes me uncomfortable he will stop but always starts again. Im at the stage where i avoid him because it perves me out so much. Im angry too cos i no he's just too lazy to go out and make and effort to pull. He's trowin away a really great friendship because he's horny. Iv told him repeatedly that i dnt want him lik dat iv been blunt as hell. But lik he drinks and can only c me as a possibile conquest. Guys is der ne wayU cud B friends with sumone U fancy, or can men n women just not B friends will sex always get n thé way?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (7 December 2012):
OP you have already let sex get in the way of your friendship. You cant undo that now. Probably the best is to just avoid him for a while so he gets over you and hopefully finds a new gf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): It's possible but being very psychologically close to someone of the gender that you are attracted tp makes it difficult due to the fact that an extreme sense of mental comfort in the other individual is already there. This even happened to me to the slightest extent when my best male buddy from preschool confessed to me that he was gay while we were in college, rather than disowning him as a friend as some straight guys would, I even displayed my self nude to him on his birthday when I was hammered with a look but don't touch rule. Had he had been a georgious girl thigs would have gone further and I would have proposed in marrige had a child been the result
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): This is not about sex really OP. Basically you befriended a guy who likes you, thinking he'd get over that but he hasn't and people rarely do when you become best friends like that. Because when you do you become as close as boyfriend and girlfriend only without the romance and sex. You can't get over someone in that situation, he has never stopped liking you, he's just shut up about it and waits in hope that you'll change your mind.
No, there's no way. 6 years and he still wants you, a supposedly good friend who won't stop trying to get in your knickers even though he knows it could ruin the friendship and being drunk is no excuse as you know. Not with friends.
Sex doesn't always get in the way but liking someone almost always does. You just can't get that close to someone you have feelings for and expect them to vanish.
My advice to you is to stay away from him while he's drunk, or avoid him when he gets to that sleazy drunk stage.
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