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writes:So I'm 19, in my second year of university and in a succesful and happy long term relationship. However, I cannot seem to forget about the teacher I had a massive crush (I used to think it was love but now I'm a little older I'm not so sure) on from when I was 14 til when I left school. We got on very well and even with hindsight it was definitely somewhat inappropriate (comments, touching) despite nothing happening.Recently, even though I haven't seen him in 1.5 years I cannot get him off my mind. I dream about him and think about him a lot. It's very inappropriate and I just want to try and move on. Everyday I get tempted to email him but I always hold back.I am in a very happy relationship with a perfect guy and I just want to try and move on, I think I'm I keep thinking of him because it seems like unfinished business.How can I move on? Would emailing help? Please help me!xxxx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 December 2012):
 It probably does feel to you like unfinished business, in your head you are probably thinking what if, or what could have been. I doubt emailing him will help, it will probably just confuse you even more. I think in time you will soon forget about him, when you think about him now look at it as fond memories from your past and accept that he is no longer in your future.
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (4 December 2012):
 yes, e-mailing him would definatly help. you don't have to have a serious love relationship with him. you could just be friends, just...friends. besides your over 18 arn't you, it's not illigal anymore to have a friendship with a teacher. i don't see why not. think to yourself, why do i like him? think about it, many just have crushes on their teachers because of the way they look. tachers have to be nice, friendly, caring, and that what builds an attraction for him. it was just your hormones at the time and you are unable to let go of those feelings. HAS he been touching you at a young age, if so, keep your eyes open and be careful. It's not innapropiation to like a teacher. i did. and it's another lesson learnt in my life,i was crazy for him, just like you were, he left, and now i think of him as just a fantasy . . . a dream. it works. but i think it would be lovely if you tw just became friends. however, don't take it further than that, believe me, things won't end well with your currant relationship. hope it helps :)
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